Finding Meaning In Existence / Eclipse of the Sun Aug. 21 / Go 12 Hours Without Eating

“Your bodies are Temples of the Holy Spirit,
who is in you,
whom you have received from God?
You are not your own.
– 1 Corinthians 6:19

MORE REAL than material objects.

There is something
much more to Life,

than Life.

Now,
put your thinking caps on
and let’s go
for a walk.
Leave the Dog
at home.
He already instinctively
understands.

The existence of a Cosmic Consciousness
is put forward by Philosophers, Physicists and Theologians
based on the premises of non-materialistic explanations
of the mind,
asserting that consciousness is actually the

“Ground of ALL Being”.

In Quantum Mechanics,
the Grand Unified Field Theory
suggests that Reality
consists of eleven dimensions.
What are the Philosophical implications
of a Multidimensional Universe?
String theory now suggests
that the most basic substance
from which everything else is derived
is CONSCIOUSNESS!
This is a paradigm shift
in understanding the nature
of Ultimate Reality.
“If the Universe is a hologram,
in some sense it suggests
that there may be TWO
very drastically different levels of reality:

the concrete reality that we see when we look at [things],
and at some DEEP level
there’s a level of reality where everything dissolves
into an ocean of energy
that is holographically interconnected.

Consciousness generates a field effect,
similar to an electromagnetic field.
Like a magnet attracting a metal object
without having to touch the object,
consciousness is capable of interacting
with things at a distance. “
Michael Talbot:
Synchronicity and the Holographic Univers
e

An interview with Michael Talbot may be found
on Jeffrey Mishlove’s excellent online resource
Thinking Allowed.
I recommend you indulge your curiosity and visit this site,
or view Jeffrey’s Youtube Channel:
ThinkingAllowedTV.

Spend some time,
My Friend,
getting to know
what we can never
truly understand.

Life is a mystery.
Everyone must stand alone.
I hear you call my name,
And it feels like home.

Just like a prayer,
your voice can take me there.

Just like a muse to me,
YOU
are a mystery

Just like a dream,
you are not what you seem.”
– Madonna Ciccone, Patrick Leonard

ANDREI LINDE,
a Russian-American theoretical physicist,
professor of Physics at Stanford University,
and the father of “Eternal Chaotic Inflation”,
and one of the main authors of the Inflationary Universe Theory,
as well as the theory of the inflationary multiverse.

He considered that consciousness,
like space-time,

might have its own intrinsic degrees of Freedom,
and that one’s perceptions may be as real,
or even “MORE” REAL
than material objects.

Quantum Theory
is now used to explain certain properties
of the mind.
New hypotheses of consciousness and space-time
explain consciousness by describing
a “space of conscious elements“,
often encompassing a number of extra dimensions.
These are dimensions
we are just now becoming aware of.
But Poets
and writers of Song
have long been aware
that there is more to Life,
than Life.
.
“Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there;
I did not die.”
– Mary Elizabeth Frye
Mary never copyrighted the poem. Her explanation:
“I thought it belonged to the world; it didn’t belong to me.
It was written out of Love
.”
  Emanating from a burst of compassion
and deep insight into the
Nature of Ultimate Reality,

it has endured and became famous.

Photo: Paul T. P. Wong

Allow me to recommend:
Paul T. P. Wong, a Canadian clinical psychologist and professor.
His research career has made significant contributions in learning theory, social cognition, existential psychology, and positive psychology. He is most known for his integrative work on death acceptance, meaning therapy, and second wave positive psychology.

Wong’s career straddles psychology and Christian ministry. He first served as the Founding Pastor of the Chinese Gospel Church in Toronto and started the Peterborough Chinese Christian Fellowship while teaching at Trent University. He was involved in resettling the boat people and started the graduate program in counseling psychology at Trinity Western University.

Wong’s integration of existential & positive psychology resulted in Existential Positive Psychology, which recognizes the existential concerns of human existence.
This was broadened and based on the foundation of
the co-existence of opposites
as essential for human development.

Wong has given positive psychology away through his
Meaningful Living MeetUp group.
Participants learn basic principles of meaning
and new ways of relating to each other.
This outreach program was intended
to improve mental health.

“When you’ve experienced everything
that this culture offers,
you will see how
empty it is,”

Pastor Greg Laurie
author of: Steve McQueen: The Salvation of an American Icon

Wong’s emphasis is on the importance
of cross-cultural perspectives
in stress and coping and positive psychology.

His research on death acceptance
and the meaning of Life
impacted Taiwan’s Life and Death Education.
He was awarded the 12th Global Love of Life Medal,
the Lifetime Achievement Award in Life Education,
and the Rising Great Compassion Award.
I invite you to
read more: http://www.drpaulwong.com/

“From this dark, cold hotel room,
and the endlessness that you fear

you are pulled from the wreckage
of your silent reverie.

In the arms of an Angel;
may you find some comfort here.”

– by Sarah McLachlan

  Viktor Frankl

Wong developed a pluralistic and integrative meaning therapy. And it was based on Viktor Frankl’s Logotherapy, an existential analysis focusing on Kierkegaard’s
will to meaning.

Logotherapy was founded upon the belief that it is the striving to find a meaning in one’s life that is the primary, most powerful motivating and driving force in Humans.

A short introduction to this system is given in Frankl’s most famous book, Man’s Search for Meaning,
in which he outlines how his theories
helped him to survive the Holocaust
and how that experience further developed
and reinforced his theories.
There are Logotherapy Institutes around the world.
click here for more information

Logotherapy is a form of existential analysis.
Man’s Search for Meaning
was published under a different title in 1959:
Nevertheless, Say “Yes” to Life:
A Psychologist Experiences the Concentration Camp.

It chronicles his experiences as a concentration camp inmate,
which led him to discover the importance
of finding meaning in all forms of existence,
even the most brutal ones,
and thus, a reason to continue living.

Remembering Olivia Penpraze February 2, 1993 – April 3 2012

I encourage you
to discuss
the meaning of this Life
with your precious children.
If you need a reason
click here.

Every child on Earth
wants to know
that there is deep meaning
for the Gift
of our existence.
The need to know that
Love exists,
and that
YOU
Love them.

Goodnight.
Logotherapeutic views and treatment

“A man hears
what he wants to hear

and disregards the rest.”
– Simon & Garfunkel

“Let me go where’er I will
I hear a sky-born music still:
It sounds from all things old,
It sounds from all things young,
From all that’s fair, from all that’s foul,
Peals out a cheerful song.

Emerson

It is not only in the Rose,
It is not only in the bird,
Not only where the rainbow glows.
Nor in the song of woman heard,
But in the darkest meanest things
There always, always something sings.

’Tis not in the high stars alone,
Nor in the cup of budding flowers,
Nor in the red-breast’s mellow tone,
Nor in the bow that smiles in showers,
                                        But in the mud and scum of things
                                     There always, always
                                      something sings.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson

On August 21, 2017, millions of people across the United States
will see nature’s most wondrous spectacle
— a total eclipse of the Sun.
It is a scene of unimaginable beauty;
the Moon completely blocks the Sun,
daytime becomes a deep twilight,
and the Sun’s corona shimmers
in the darkened sky.

Going at least 12 hours without eating
has pretty amazing weight-loss benefits,
a new Salk Institute study has found.
There’s a growing body of research
that says when you eat
really does make a difference
in how much you weigh.
read more

“Your body is more prone to burn fat
at certain times of day and store fat at other times,”
says Satchin Panda, PhD, associate professor
in the Regulatory Biology Laboratory
at the Salk Institute in La Jolla, California.

New studies reveal that to burn the most fat,
you need to go 12 hours without eating
– say, from 8 p.m. to 8 a.m.
So it’s smart to time your calorie intake accordingly.
Read on for the science backed rules
that will help you use the clock
to shed excess pounds.

To keep pounds off,
don’t eat after dark.
(Yes,
you may eat
during the eclipse!)

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The Potter’s Wheel / Seven Ways to Experience More Joy / Thank You: Stage West Theater

“O LORD,
Thou art our Father;

we are the clay,
and thou our Potter;
and we all are the work
of Thy Hand.”
Isaiah 64:8

Round like a circle
ever spinning.
Infinite Love
Created you
and me.
When Sunlight never was,
and darkness
was ever to be,
the Light of God’s Love
penetrated all,
and from
the Potter’s Wheel
was Lovingly crafted

the beautiful Dream
we are.

Our footprints
found their way
into the sand.
And rings
found a Rainbow
to fall upon.

Like tide born
ripples,
spread upon the shores
of time,
we question
over and over again,

the moment of our
birth.

To whom
do we belong?

And the Autumn Leaves
of Life,
drifting past
so very many days that were,

make us suddenly
aware:
there is more
to Life
than can be seen,
more
to Love
than in a
Dream.
And the lessons
learned
found in-between:
include Forgiveness
God implores.
For now
quickly becomes nevermore
the moment
to explore.

  There is more to Life than can be seen.

And in this now,
our Friends in science say,
The Divine Book was right,
we are made
of Clay.
read more

“And the LORD God
formed man of the dust of the ground,
and breathed into his nostrils
the breath of life;
and man became
a living Soul.”
– Genesis 2:7
.
We never know
the value
of this moment in time,
until it becomes
the treasure
of a memory.

And then,
God calls your
name,
to take you Home.
He wants
to take you there.
To where
there is no end,
and the deep
Mystery of Love
is kept
by perpetual Prayer.

He
hears your voice,
feels you falling
through the breeze,

like the Leaves
of Autumn trees,
into His arms,
a Harvest of
Dreams.

The Promise
of God,
is to Love you
and never
let you go.

And in times
of doubt,
when you feel
you do not
know,
the Prayer
you secretly hold in your
Heart,
will show you
the way.
For your Father
truly longs to hear
you say:
I Love you.
I need you.
In my Heart,
I want you
to stay,

                 We have been Blessed.

My Friend,
during all this
Time,
you knew the
Way.
And the Path
is Beautiful,
and straight
and near.
It points directly
to your
Heart.

From this
Moment,
Life
can begin.
From this
Moment,
you
have been Blessed.
But this Moment
is all
that is left,
to Live
and Love
and let your Heart
take flight,
and accept your Gift
from Above

Yes,
we have been
Blessed,
with the Gift
of this Moment.

And
it shall not last
long.

Goodnight.

        You have been Blessed.

Seven Ways to Experience More Joy
by James Baraz and Shoshana Alexander
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James Baraz and Shoshana Alexander share their principles for building more joy into your daily experience.

Editor’s note: “Joy is not for just the lucky few,” says James Baraz, a longtime meditation teacher and cofounder of the renowned Spirit Rock Meditation Center in Woodacre, Calif. “It’s a choice anyone can make.” Each year since 2003, Baraz has taught a 10-month course, both online and at the center, called “Awakening Joy.” Its goal: to help participants increase their daily quotient of positive feelings.

The material is based on universal, nondenominational principles that draw on both Buddhist philosophy and on contemporary neuroscientific studies that show we can deliberately incline our minds toward greater happiness. The seven suggestions that follow will give you a glimpse of his joyful prescription and help you understand how to put it to work in your own life.

1. Imagine Happiness
Any activity, when performed repetitively, changes the structure of the brain. But even repeatedly imagining an activity has an impact on neural structure. Researchers at Harvard Medical School demonstrated this with an experiment where they asked one group to play a five-finger exercise on the piano over the course of a week. A comparison group was asked to merely imagine moving their fingers to play the same exercise. Though actively playing the exercise had a greater impact on brain structure than imagining it, by the end of the week, the same region of the brain in both groups had been significantly affected.

Each day, deliberately imagine yourself happy. Picture yourself in a situation with people you really like, or engaged in an activity that gives you a lot of pleasure. By actively imagining feelings of happiness or recalling happy experiences, you can help to encourage changes in your brain that will predispose you to creating more real-life joy in your daily experiences.

2. Memorize Happiness in Your Body
Even though the brain is strongly inclined to notice and retain negative experiences over positive ones (that’s our protective survival instinct at work), you can help level the playing field by strengthening your neurological happiness circuits. Whenever you’re experiencing a moment of joy or contentment — walking, listening to music, being kind, feeling grateful — don’t miss it! Pause to notice the feelings in your body and the state of your mind. Do you feel warmth in your chest? Does your mind feel light and open?

Now consciously intensify that sensation. Some psychologists call this “memorizing” the feeling. Either way, you are causing the same neural circuits to fire repeatedly, thereby strengthening them. Psychologist Rick Hanson calls this “taking in the good.”

“As with any positive state of mind,” Hanson says, “if you can develop a strong ‘sense memory’ of the experience, you can reactivate it deliberately when you want to.”

3. Reframe Your Fate Positively
Countless studies have shown the effects of gratitude exercises on positive outlook. One study conducted by positive psychologist Martin Seligman asked participants who considered themselves severely depressed to write down three good things that happened to them each day for 15 days. Ninety-four percent of subjects reported a decrease in depression, while 92 percent said their happiness had increased.

Because experiencing and expressing appreciation has such a demonstrable effect, we highly recommend course participants keep a daily list of things they’re grateful for.

Here’s another exercise that can incline the mind to gratitude even during unpleasant moments: Choose a task or situation in your life that feels like an obligatory burden. Try changing your “I have to” story to an “I get to” story, and see if you arrive at a different perspective. “Now I get to take out the garbage” could create an opportunity to feel grateful for your working legs, or your trash pickup service — instead of just feeling annoyed.

4. Strategically Diffuse Worry
Worry and rumination are chronic joy-killers, but they’re easy habits of mind for many. This excerpt of a March 2000 conversation between the Dalai Lama and a group of neuroscientists and scholars suggests a useful technique for heading off anxious episodes. The speaker is Matthieu Ricard, PhD, a geneticist and Buddhist monk:

“The basic way to intervene [when a troubling thought arises is to use a technique] called ‘staring back.’ When a thought arises, [instead of reacting] we need to watch it and look back at its source. . . . As we stare at it, its apparent solidity begins to melt away, and that thought will vanish without giving birth to a chain of thoughts. The point is not to try and block the arising of thoughts — this is not possible anyway — but not to let them invade our mind. We need to do this again and again because we are not used to dealing with thoughts in this way. . . . Finally a time will come when thoughts come and go like a bird passing through the sky, without leaving a trace.”

5. Experience the Bliss of Blamelessness
When we’re stuck in resentment, self-condemnation or guilt, our capacity for joy is severely limited. Everyone makes mistakes, so it’s important that we learn how to let go of blame — for others and for ourselves.

Resentment consumes energy, even when we’re entitled to it. If you’re trying to let go of blame toward someone else, try becoming curious about a hurtful experience, instead of taking it personally. Taking a more impersonal view of disappointments can reveal their hidden gifts.

When you’re trying to break the habit of self-recriminating thought, focus instead on how you want to feel. Rather than dwelling on a mistake, recall the pleasant feeling you have when you choose wisely or accomplish something successfully, and let that feeling be your guide.

It can take several months for neural circuits to consolidate fully in support of new habits of mind, so be vigilant. You are wiring your brain to fully experience happiness instead of just relief at avoiding error.

6. Let Go of Feeling Busy
One of the primary obstacles to joy is the feeling of being too busy. Even if we can’t pare down our schedules, it doesn’t mean we can’t feel happiness, peace or even joy in the midst of our busyness.

During intensely scheduled periods, try giving yourself “mini-breaks.” Take a brief moment between tasks and obligations to pause, close your eyes, breathe deeply, and feel what it’s like to be “outside of time.”

Even if you’ve just dashed down the hall at work from one meeting to another, stop for a few seconds before you open that next door. Close your eyes, let your body relax, take a breath, and come back to yourself. You may find yourself feeling substantially less harried and more capable of dealing calmly and consciously with whatever unfolds next.

7. Seek the Good in Others
There are a lot of reasons to feel joy observing other people — if we’re looking for the best in them. Seeing the goodness in someone else brings something real, alive and uplifting out of him or her. It allows trust to develop between people who scarcely know each other. And it allows you to truly enjoy your interactions with others without getting hung up on what you don’t like.

Try this: For one week, take on the practice of looking for the good in everyone you come in contact with. See in each person the desire to be safe, accepted, happy and loved. Even if you know someone’s shortcomings, keep looking for the positive qualities — creativity, humor, a caring heart, intelligence — any and all positive qualities you might admire. Notice what effect this has on how you feel toward others and on your interactions with them. Notice the effect it has on your state of mind. And enjoy it.

Our Shakespeare Production:
A Midsummer Night’s Dream,

was a beautiful success.

Our sincere gratitude to our marvelous Director
George X Rodriguez.
What a tremendous undertaking!

THANK YOU:
Dana Schultes
and the marvelous staff
of Stage West Theater,
Nick Meagher,
Virginia Rodrigues,
The Rodrigues Family,
Kayla Stone,
Michelle Smeller,
Nathan Pedneault,
Mac Cooper,
Christy Flanigan,
Alden Collins
and many others.

“Parents who overemphasize
achievement
are more likely to have kids
with high levels of depression, anxiety,
and substance abuse
compared to other kids.”
– Eric Barker

IMPORTANT  DATES:
May 22 – 26       Adventure Trip
May 26               Last Day of Semester.

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“When our strengths
are exhibited at extremes,
they become our weakness.”
– Merrick Roserberg

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Love Surrounds Us / Heart Healthy Diet / Friday: At School

The Miracle of Life blossoms into Beauty.

Thoughts of love
surround us.
And all around us,
in every moment
of every day,
with every beat
of every Heart,
the Miracle of Life
blossoms
into Beauty that
WE
can behold.

The Eternal Light
of Love

chases away the last vestige
of the dark
of night.

And we come to see
evermore,
the wonder of our Birth
into Hope,
into Love
and Life,
and into the
Light.

All
things become visible

when they are exposed by the Light,
for everything that becomes visible
is Light.”
Ephesians 5:13

We are remote
from the possibility
of comprehension.
But the Human Heart
can
take pleasure and delight

in the magic and the wonder
and the mystery
that is this
Life.

               A Many Splendored Thing.

Life
is at best,
but a brief journey
through Seasons
that come and go,
the passage
through which
few
are ever fully aware,
ever really know.

Yes.
Seasons come
and then they go,
and we are here

and gone.
Your smile,

faint in the glow
of beautiful memory,
much like
your Life,
seemingly long,
glimmering like a Rainbow,
but lasting
like the Dawn.

             Glimmering like a Rainbow.

But the Miracle
of this Life
lies in the Mystery
of the Clear Eternal Light,
that when you Pray,
will find you
and guide you,
and never
let you lose
your way.

“This is the message
we have heard from him
and proclaim to you,

that God is light
and in him is no darkness
at all.”

John 1:5

Let us
Dream the Dream,
and keep on
Living
to Walk
in the Beautiful
Light of God’s
abundant Love.

                      Lasting like the Dawn.

 Yes,
the tides of fortune
are awash and aplenty
upon our shores.
And the initial Life
of material existence
is filled with illusion.

“Our concept of Beauty
suggests a greater Meaning
in a Universe capable of producing beings
that not only appreciate Beauty
but strive to achieve greater and greater Beauty.
You are made to think, know, and create like God,
because God wanted to share
that experience of Being
with some other than Himself.”
Sarah Capello

But deeper
than the Ocean
is God’s Love
for you.

I Pray
you will come to see
the Peace and Hope
and the everlasting Joy
such knowing
will bring.

God’s Love
is truly
a Many Splendored
Thing.

Goodnight.

             Let us dream the dream.

Heart-healthy diet: 8 steps to prevent heart disease
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Ready to start your heart-healthy diet? Here are eight tips to get you started.

By Mayo Clinic Staff

Although you might know that eating certain foods can increase your heart disease risk, it’s often tough to change your eating habits. Whether you have years of unhealthy eating under your belt or you simply want to fine-tune your diet, here are eight heart-healthy diet tips. Once you know which foods to eat more of and which foods to limit, you’ll be on your way toward a heart-healthy diet.

 1. Control your portion size

How much you eat is just as important as what you eat. Overloading your plate, taking seconds and eating until you feel stuffed can lead to eating more calories than you should. Portions served in restaurants are often more than anyone needs.

Use a small plate or bowl to help control your portions. Eat larger portions of low-calorie, nutrient-rich foods, such as fruits and vegetables, and smaller portions of high-calorie, high-sodium foods, such as refined, processed or fast foods. This strategy can shape up your diet as well as your heart and waistline.

Keep track of the number of servings you eat. A serving size is a specific amount of food, defined by common measurements such as cups, ounces or pieces. For example, one serving of pasta is 1/2 cup, or about the size of a hockey puck. A serving of meat, fish or chicken is about 2 to 3 ounces, or about the size and thickness of a deck of cards. Judging serving size is a learned skill. You may need to use measuring cups and spoons or a scale until you’re comfortable with your judgment.

2. Eat more vegetables and fruits

 Vegetables and fruits are good sources of vitamins and minerals. Vegetables and fruits are also low in calories and rich in dietary fiber. Vegetables and fruits contain substances found in plants that may help prevent cardiovascular disease. Eating more fruits and vegetables may help you eat less high-fat foods, such as meat, cheese and snack foods.

Featuring vegetables and fruits in your diet can be easy. Keep vegetables washed and cut in your refrigerator for quick snacks. Keep fruit in a bowl in your kitchen so that you’ll remember to eat it. Choose recipes that have vegetables or fruits as the main ingredients, such as vegetable stir-fry or fresh fruit mixed into salads.

Fruits and vegetables to choose Fruits and vegetables to limit
  • Fresh or frozen vegetables and fruits
  • Low-sodium canned vegetables
  • Canned fruit packed in juice or water
  • Coconut
  • Vegetables with creamy sauces
  • Fried or breaded vegetables
  • Canned fruit packed in heavy syrup
  • Frozen fruit with sugar added

3. Select whole grains

 Whole grains are good sources of fiber and other nutrients that play a role in regulating blood pressure and heart health. You can increase the amount of whole grains in a heart-healthy diet by making simple substitutions for refined grain products. Or be adventuresome and try a new whole grain, such as whole-grain farro, quinoa or barley.
Grain products to choose Grain products to limit or avoid
  • Whole-wheat flour
  • Whole-grain bread, preferably 100% whole-wheat bread or 100% whole-grain bread
  • High-fiber cereal with 5 g or more of fiber in a serving
  • Whole grains such as brown rice, barley and buckwheat (kasha)
  • Whole-grain pasta
  • Oatmeal (steel-cut or regular)
  • White, refined flour
  • White bread
  • Muffins
  • Frozen waffles
  • Corn bread
  • Doughnuts
  • Biscuits
  • Quick breads
  • Cakes
  • Pies
  • Egg noodles
  • Buttered popcorn
  • High-fat snack crackers

4. Limit unhealthy fats

 Limiting how much saturated and trans fats you eat is an important step to reduce your blood cholesterol and lower your risk of coronary artery disease. A high blood cholesterol level can lead to a buildup of plaques in your arteries, called atherosclerosis, which can increase your risk of heart attack and stroke.

The American Heart Association offers these guidelines for how much fat to include in a heart-healthy diet:

Type of fat Recommendation
Saturated fat Less than 7% of your total daily calories, or less than 14 g of saturated fat if you follow a 2,000-calorie-a-day diet
Trans fat Less than 1% of your total daily calories, or less than 2 g of trans fat if you follow a 2,000-calorie-a-day diet

The best way to reduce saturated and trans fats in your diet is to limit the amount of solid fats — butter, margarine and shortening — you add to food when cooking and serving. You can also reduce the amount of saturated fat in your diet by trimming fat off your meat or choosing lean meats with less than 10 percent fat.

You can also use low – fat substitutions when possible for a heart – healthy diet. For example, top your baked potato with low-sodium salsa or low-fat yogurt rather than butter, or use sliced whole fruit or low-sugar fruit spread on your toast instead of margarine.

You may also want to check the food labels of some cookies, crackers and chips. Many of these snacks — even those labeled “reduced fat” —  may be made with oils containing trans fats. One clue that a food has some trans fat in it is the phrase “partially hydrogenated” in the ingredient list.

When you do use fats, choose monounsaturated fats, such as olive oil or canola oil. Polyunsaturated fats, found in certain fish, avocados, nuts and seeds, also are good choices for a heart-healthy diet. When used in place of saturated fat, monounsaturated and polyunsaturated fats may help lower your total blood cholesterol. But moderation is essential. All types of fat are high in calories.

An easy way to add healthy fat (and fiber) to your diet is ground flaxseed. Flaxseeds are small brown seeds that are high in fiber and omega-3 fatty acids. Studies have found that flaxseeds may help lower cholesterol in some people. You can grind the seeds in a coffee grinder or food processor and stir a teaspoon of them into yogurt, applesauce or hot cereal.

Fats to choose Fats to limit
  • Olive oil
  • Canola oil
  • Vegetable and nut oils
  • Margarine, trans fat free
  • Cholesterol-lowering margarine, such as Benecol, Promise Activ or Smart Balance
  • Nuts, seeds
  • Avocados
  • Butter
  • Lard
  • Bacon fat
  • Gravy
  • Cream sauce
  • Nondairy creamers
  • Hydrogenated margarine and shortening
  • Cocoa butter, found in chocolate
  • Coconut, palm, cottonseed and palm-kernel oils

5. Choose low-fat protein sources

 Lean meat, poultry and fish, low-fat dairy products, and eggs are some of your best sources of protein. But be careful to choose lower fat options, such as skim milk rather than whole milk and skinless chicken breasts rather than fried chicken patties.

Fish is another good alternative to high-fat meats. And certain types of fish are rich in omega-3 fatty acids, which can lower blood fats called triglycerides. You’ll find the highest amounts of omega-3 fatty acids in cold-water fish, such as salmon, mackerel and herring. Other sources are flaxseed, walnuts, soybeans and canola oil.

 Legumes — beans, peas and lentils — also are good sources of protein and contain less fat and no cholesterol, making them good substitutes for meat. Substituting plant protein for animal protein — for example, a soy or bean burger for a hamburger — will reduce your fat and cholesterol intake.
Proteins to choose Proteins to limit or avoid
  • Low-fat dairy products such as skim or low-fat (1%) milk, yogurt and cheese
  • Eggs
  • Fish, especially fatty, cold-water fish, such as salmon
  • Skinless poultry
  • Legumes
  • Soybeans and soy products, such as soy burgers and tofu
  • Lean ground meats
  • Full-fat milk and other dairy products
  • Organ meats, such as liver
  • Fatty and marbled meats
  • Spareribs
  • Hot dogs and sausages
  • Bacon
  • Fried or breaded meats

6. Reduce the sodium in your food

 Eating a lot of sodium can contribute to high blood pressure, a risk factor for cardiovascular disease. Reducing sodium is an important part of a heart-healthy diet. The Department of Health and Human Services recommends:
  • Healthy adults have no more than 2,300 milligrams (mg) of sodium a day (about a teaspoon of salt)
  • People age 51 or older, African-Americans, and people who have been diagnosed with high blood pressure, diabetes or chronic kidney disease have no more than 1,500 mg of sodium a day
 Although reducing the amount of salt you add to food at the table or while cooking is a good first step, much of the salt you eat comes from canned or processed foods, such as soups and frozen dinners. Eating fresh foods and making your own soups and stews can reduce the amount of salt you eat.

If you like the convenience of canned soups and prepared meals, look for ones with reduced sodium. Be wary of foods that claim to be lower in sodium because they are seasoned with sea salt instead of regular table salt — sea salt has the same nutritional value as regular salt.

Another way to reduce the amount of salt you eat is to choose your condiments carefully. Many condiments are available in reduced-sodium versions, and salt substitutes can add flavor to your food with less sodium.

Low-salt items to choose High-salt items to avoid
  • Herbs and spices
  • Salt substitutes
  • Reduced-salt canned soups or prepared meals
  • Reduced-salt versions of condiments, such as reduced-salt soy sauce and reduced-salt ketchup
  • Table salt
  • Canned soups and prepared foods, such as frozen dinners
  • Tomato juice
  • Soy sauce

7. Plan ahead: Create daily menus

 You know what foods to feature in your heart-healthy diet and which ones to limit. Now it’s time to put your plans into action.

Create daily menus using the six strategies listed above. When selecting foods for each meal and snack, emphasize vegetables, fruits and whole grains. Choose lean protein sources and healthy fats, and limit salty foods. Watch your portion sizes and add variety to your menu choices.

 For example, if you have grilled salmon one evening, try a black-bean burger the next night. This helps ensure that you’ll get all of the nutrients your body needs. Variety also makes your meals and snacks more interesting.

8. Allow yourself an occasional treat

 Allow yourself an indulgence every now and then. A candy bar or handful of potato chips won’t derail your heart-healthy diet. But don’t let it turn into an excuse for giving up on your healthy eating plan. If overindulgence is the exception, rather than the rule, you’ll balance things out over the long term. What’s important is that you eat healthy foods most of the time.

 Incorporate these eight tips into your life, and you’ll find that heart-healthy eating is both doable and enjoyable. With planning and a few simple substitutions, you can eat with your heart in mind.

Friday:

We will meet at school
on Friday
from 8:30 a.m.
to 3:15 p.m.
and work with our Director,
George Rodriguez,
on our upcoming
Shakespeare production.

IMPORTANT  DATES:

May 5                 At School (Play rehearsal)
May 15 & 16      Shakespeare Production at Stage West Theater
May 22 – 26       Adventure Trip
May 26               Last Day of Semester.

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allowance is made for “fair use” for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship,and research. Fair use is permitted by copyright statute. Non-profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of “fair use”.

Lyrics/song texts are property and copyright of their owners and provided for educational purposes.

The magic and the wonder and the mystery that is this Life.

 

That’s All I Ask of You / Coping With Workplace Stress / Friday: At School (Shakespeare Play Rehearsal)

“We must know
that we have been created for greater things,
not just to be a number in the world,
not just to go for diplomas and degrees,
this work and that work.
We have been created in order
to Love
and to be Loved.”

–  Mother Teresa

God has been invited to come in.

My Dear Friends,
from this moment
Life can begin
again.

Imagine yourself
as another living Being.
And God
has been invited
to come in
and forgive you
of all your sin,
and rebuild the Life
that housed all your previous
days,
all the moments that for you
did exist.

             Life can begin again.

The first thought
that flies past you,
is that you cannot understand
what He is doing.

No.
No one can ever
really understand.

“Great is our Lord,
and abundant in power; 
his understanding is
beyond measure.”

Psalm 147:5

Because
the past
no longer exists.
Only tomorrow
is real again.

  The pain is no longer here to stay.

The pain,
from so many years,
that never
seemed to go away,
in one moment,
on one precious day,
is no longer
here to stay.

“For which cause we faint not;
but though our outward man perish,
yet the inward man is renewed
day by day.”
– 2 Corinthians 4:16
 .
God is preparing
a place for your
Heart.

Far
beyond forever,
will He stay
in Love with you.
For
He will never
not Love you.
And all
He asks in return,
is that you Love
Him.

Is this
not what we ask
of others
in Life?

“No more talk of darkness
Forget these wide eyed fears.
I’m here, nothing can harm you.
My words will warm and calm you.

Let me be your freedom.
Let daylight dry your tears.
I’m here, with you, beside you,
To guard you and to guide you

Say you Love me
Every waking moment.
Say you Love me
Oh, I do Love you
that’s all I ask of you.

Anywhere you go
let me go too.
Love me,
that’s all I ask of you.”
–  Andrew Lloyd Webber

Yes,
finding a way
to be,
is as simple as
“I Love You.
Please Love Me.”

Goodnight.

               I Love You.

Coping With Workplace Stress
by Diana Louise Carter
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 in Esperanza
(Hope to Cope with Anxiety and Depression)

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Taking steps to strengthen your resilience, plus seeking treatment if necessary, will help you handle cranky customers, toxic co-workers, and other on the job stressors.

After a really stressful day at work, Katie, an RN, spends a little extra drive time in her car.

“Once I leave the office, work stays here. I try absolutely my best not to take it home,” says Katie, who lives in Alabama. “Even if you have to drive around for a few minutes by yourself.”

That’s what professional counselors call a “calming ritual” – something that may come in especially handy for nurses like Katie, home health workers, bus drivers, social workers, and people employed in restaurants, real estate, personal services, and manufacturing.

Those are among occupations with the highest rates of depression, as ranked by two studies – one published in 2010, the other in 2014. Authors of the later study identified “frequent or difficult interactions” with the public or clients, high levels of stress, and low levels of physical activity as characteristics the jobs had in common.

No matter the profession, strains like cranky customers, uncivil bosses, unpredictable work schedules, unreasonable deadlines, and the 24/7 electronic tether of our mobile devices can challenge anyone’s well-being.

In the American Psychological Association’s 2012 annual Stress in America Survey, 65 percent of respondents listed work as their top source of life stress – but only 37 percent said they were “doing an excellent or very good job managing stress.”

Katie says hospital nursing is so demanding it’s sometimes hard to take a break to regroup.

“You’re the person who goes between the doctor and the patient,” she notes. “All of it kind of gets put on your shoulders. If it all goes wrong … nurses just catch most of the blame.”

Katie prefers to practice in a small clinic where the pace and workload are more comfortable. A case manager for an outpatient mental health and substance abuse program, she’s a fan of adult coloring books— “they’re actually very calming” – and journaling for stress relief.

CREATIVE CHANGES

Expert advice for dealing with job stress tends to fall into two categories: steps you can take at work, such as using all your allotted breaks or advocating for different duties, and steps you can take outside work to better your health and enrich your life satisfaction—getting more exercise, for example, or pursuing hobbies that make you happy.

Steven implemented both types of solutions when the demands of his brewery job in upstate New York contributed to an anxiety diagnosis in 2007.

Steven, 57, had to follow complicated and precise recipes to craft huge tanks of “malternatives” like fruit-flavored alcoholic beverages and hard lemonade. Once he was formally reprimanded for using an ingredient from a new supplier that hadn’t been certified yet, which meant the whole batch went down the drain. He found himself overthinking all the steps in making beer coolers.

He was able to implement one creative change in his work flow to reduce his second-guessing: He would line up ingredients before he started and as each was added, he’d remove it from the bench.

There were other aspects of the job came he couldn’t control, however. His schedule rotated through day, evening and night shifts—a documented risk factor in depression and anxiety. He would frequently be called away from one task to attend a process elsewhere in the brewery complex, which made it harder to meet his production deadlines. Cost-cutting layoffs shrank his department from five employees per shift to three.

To counterbalance on-the-job aggravations, Steven pursued nature photography on his own and with a meet-up group.

“Photography helps,” says Steven, who took a disability retirement last year due to a bum knee. “Taking walks, occupying yourself, looking around. Your mind isn’t replaying all that went on in work again.”

RESTORING RESILIENCE

The American Institute of Stress notes that job pressures in and of themselves may be less important than how individuals fit with the work environment. For example, there are people who thrive in pressure-cooker situations while others have a lower tolerance for overload.

What’s happening outside of work can make a difference, too. At times, life stressors plus job stressors may add up to more than an individual’s natural resilience can handle. That’s when buttressing your reserves with activities that strengthen your physical self (especially good sleep), reinforce a positive perspective (such as reframing problems), and dilute tension (yoga, anyone?) become even more important.

Allison got caught in a period of institutional upheaval shortly after starting a new job at a prestigious music conservatory in Rochester, New York.

“We had to downsize my department. I had to fire people to cut costs. I had to outsource services at the same time I was learning the job,” recalls Allison, who was hired to oversee publications and public affairs.

In her personal life, Allison was dealing with her mother’s declining health and her marriage was slowly unraveling. Diagnosed with depression, she worked with her doctor and therapist to come up with coping tools.

“My doctor suggested maybe doing art or exercising. I swam laps. I would sit quietly at night and listen to the radio and draw mandalas. I would paint,” says Allison.

As the environment at work worsened, Allison decided on a more radical solution: Leaving that job to look for opportunities where she could be self-employed.

The “take this job and shove it” approach may be the best option in some circumstances, but for many it feels like an impossible choice. Robert W. McLellarn, PhD, often counsels people who are stressed out because of their jobs.

“They feel like they have to keep going to keep the paycheck,” notes McLellarn, a licensed clinical psychologist in Portland, Oregon, who specializes in treating anxiety.

McLellarn says that taking some sort of action short of leaving a bad job can be a stress reliever. For example, pursue the skills or training needed to get a more fulfilling job. The goal is to feel less stuck.

“Even giving people some strategies, some ideas, some hope that this can change is rewarding,” says McLellarn.

 WORKPLACE ALLIES

Assuming clear guidelines from human resources and a sympathetic supervisor, negotiating accommodations can be an on-the-job option. Opinion varies on whether it’s wise to divulge mental health challenges, and a lot depends on an individual’s particular situation and comfort level.

Genella of Brandon, Manitoba, coaches individuals on managing stress and advises companies on how to establish “psychologically safe” workplaces through her consulting firm Partners in Discovery. Although more employers are recognizing the bottom-line benefits of reducing burnout, she acknowledges that ignorance and stigma haven’t disappeared.

“People understand if you have a cast on your leg, but if you’re stressed, people still think it’s a character flaw,” says Genella, who has dealt with depression and anxiety herself.

Similarly, Genella points out, people can see that someone with a broken leg needs an elevator to go between floors, but they may not know what sort of supports to offer for a person with depression or anxiety. 

Genella says Canadian law acknowledges addiction issues, but hasn’t codified accommodations for mental health.

Protections assured by the U.S. Americans with Disabilities Act may come into play if symptoms interfere with job responsibilities, according to Job Accommodations Network, a program of the U.S. Department of Labor and academic and industry partners.

Lisa of Brooklyn found an ally when she went to work part-time as an admissions coordinator at a law school in New York City nine years ago. Lisa, 46, has lived with sometimes disabling anxiety since her teens. Her department head allowed her to switch around her schedule if a panic attack erupted on a day she was due in.

When Lisa feels overwhelmed at the office, she takes a bathroom break to practice deep breathing exercises. She also finds prayer calming.

Having a strong support network at home keeps Lisa fortified for work demands. She finds that in her husband and parents, who live in the same apartment building. Weekly visits with her beloved nephews, ages 5 years old and 4 months old, have become a vital tonic.

“I call them my sunshine boys,” she says. “They should just bottle babies and give that as depression medication.”

Genella, meanwhile, thrives on the “unconditional gratitude, acceptance and love” of her dog, Tucker.

“When you have those, you can’t have a stress response at the same time,” she asserts. “I suggest that a person find out: When you are stressed, what works for you?”

WORKPLACE STRESS: SWITCH GEARS

It’s important to leave work and all its worries behind once you get home. Creating a destressing ritual can help you move into a new frame of mind. That could be something as simple as changing into more comfortable clothes or having a cup of tea while reviewing the mail.

DOLLARS AND SENSE

If it’s not addressed, chronic work stress can have a negative impact on physical health, family relationships, and life satisfaction. It can tip vulnerable individuals into depression or anxiety, or trigger those already dealing with mental health challenges.

Quite apart from the personal toll, there’s a financial backlash for businesses. One widely quoted statistic puts the annual cost of job stress to the American economy at $300 billion.

That includes the estimated burden of accidents due to fatigue and inability to concentrate, employee turnover, and loss of productivity due to absenteeism and “presenteeism”—in attendance bodily but unable to work at normal capacity.

According to the Harvard Business Review, studies show that presenteeism due to chronic illnesses—including conditions like allergies and arthritis – costs employers two to three times more than direct medical care.

Looking specifically at depression in the workplace, the advocacy organization Mental Health American cites a figure of $51 billion annually in indirect costs to the U.S. economy.

In Canada, more than 30 percent of disability claims and 70 percent of disability costs can be traced to mental health issues, according to the Mental Health Commission of Canada. However, such payouts may yield a rich payback.

In a 2009 survey of 3,000 Alberta workers found that 255 people (or nearly 10 percent) confirmed they’d had a depressive episode in the year before they were interviewed. Those who had received treatment were significantly more likely to report being able to function at a highly productive level at work compared to those who had not sought help

 TOXIC WORKPLACE ANTITOXINS

Sometimes job stress doesn’t come from the work itself but from the people you work with. In her book Mastering Civility: A Manifesto for the Workplace, Christine Porath, PhD, chronicles the toll that a toxic workplace can take on employees and employers.

Productivity tends to decrease and work absences tend to increase. If workers burn out and leave, businesses face the expense of replacing them. People are likely to carry workplace stress home at the end of the day, with poisonous effects on their health and relationships.

Whether a single bout of yelling or constant “micro-aggressions” by a difficult supervisor, the effects “can stick with people for decades,” Porath says. “It takes a cognitive toll even if you just observe it.”

Minimizing face-to-face contact can be a legitimate strategy, such as steering clear of committee work with a co-worker who pushes your buttons. Some other recommendations:

For a reality check, discreetly ask co-workers whether they’re having similar problems. Try to evaluate where there’s an objective issue affecting everyone, like unreasonable deadlines or constant disrespect, or whether you are particularly reactive.

Try talking with your supervisor about specific behaviors and situations that are making you feel stressed. Some may welcome the feedback, others may react negatively.

If your supervisor is not receptive to your concerns, consider moving up the chain of command or turning to the human resources department or a union representative.

If unclear job expectations are creating stress, ask to work with your supervisor on developing written guidelines you can both agree upon

 FEEL THE BURN(OUT)

The Mayo Clinic lists these signs of job burnout:

  • Have you become cynical or critical at work?
  • Do you drag yourself to work and have trouble getting started once you arrive?
  • Have you become irritable or impatient with co-workers, customers or clients?
  • Do you lack the energy to be consistently productive?
  • Do you lack satisfaction from your achievements?
  • Do you feel disillusioned about your job?
  • Are you using food, drugs, or alcohol to feel better or to simply not feel?
  • Have your sleep habits or appetite changed?
  • Are you troubled by unexplained headaches, backaches or other physical complaints? 

  No one can ever really understand.

Friday:
Our plan to travel this Friday
has been postponed due to
inclement weather.
We will meet at school
on Friday
from 8:30 a.m.
to 3:15 p.m.
and work with our Director,
George Rodriguez,
on our upcoming
Shakespeare production.

IMPORTANT  DATES:

April 28             At School (Play rehearsal)
May 1                TUITION DUE for 2017-18
May 15 & 16      Shakespeare Production at Stage West Theater
May 22 – 26       Adventure Trip
May 26               Last Day of Semester.

Copyright Disclaimer – Section 107 – Copyright Act 1976,
allowance is made for “fair use” for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship,and research. Fair use is permitted by copyright statute. Non-profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of “fair use”.

Lyrics/song texts are property and copyright of their owners and provided for educational purposes.

Deep Peace / What Every Child Needs For Good Mental Health / Good Friday and Easter Holidays (Friday and Monday)

“Let the mountains talk
Let the rivers run
There is Wisdom here
There is much to learn
There is much to know
Much to understand
In this healing time
All across the land.

Through these darker days
On this narrow line
Help me find my way
Help me see the signs
I am not afraid
I am not alone
You have taught me well
You have brought me home.

To the rising sun
In each brand new day
In our own rebirth
In this healing time
Here on our Mother Earth.”
– John Denver

WE are made of the quiet earth,            and Sacred running waters.

Every
moment in time
can redefine
the mystery of
Life.
The deeper knowledge
of who we really are
can gently unfold
in our Sacred Heart,
our troubled mind.

Our thoughts and worries
trouble us so.
But when
our Hearts become
consciously present enough
in this precious moment,
we can recognize an opening
when it occurs,
and step through a door of awareness,
to clearly see
our mind is filled with distractions,
creating the illusions
of Life.

  The illusions of Life

Life
was never meant
to be lived
in the mind
alone,
but in the Sacred Heart
of God’s Love
for you
and me.

Every Sunrise
felt by your fragile Heart,
every thought
of another,
every Blessing your Life bestows
upon someone
less fortunate than you,
is a portal
to a redefining moment –
a moment that can again discern
and distinguish
YOU.

   A portal to a redefining moment

“Be still, my Soul;
the hour is hastening on
When we shall be forever with the Lord,
When disappointment, grief, and fear are gone,
Sorrow forgot, love’s purest Joys restored.
Be still, my Soul;
when change and tears are past,

All safe and Blessed
we shall meet at last.”

Catharine Amalia Dorothea von Schlegel, 1752

listen here

A beautiful Gaelic Blessing
has been set to music,
with lyrics based on the
Blessed Revelations of an
Irish Prayer.
This is one of the most peaceful and relaxing songs
that you will ever hear.
I invite you to
feel your way through the dark
CLICK HERE
(Deep Peace / arr. John Rutter)
and allow the simple and very powerful
message of this Prayer
to enter your precious
Heart.

Yes,
My Friends.
The Great Truths
are simple.
And so are
WE.

WE
are made of
the quiet Earth,
and Sacred running waters,
from the Whirling Flame
of God’s Love.
And one day
soon,
we shall surely return.

“Deep Peace”

“Deep peace of the running wave to you;
Deep peace of the flowing air to you;
Deep peace of the quiet earth to you;
Deep peace of the shining stars to you.
Deep peace of the gentle night to you;
Moon and stars pour their healing light on you;

Deep peace to you.
Deep peace of the sleeping stones to you;
Deep peace of the wandering wind to you;
Deep peace of the flock of stars to you;
Deep peace, deep peace.
Pure red of the whirling flame to you;
Pure white of the silver moon to you;
Pure green of the emerald grass to you;

Deep peace.
Deep peace of the running wave to you;
Deep peace of the flowing air to you;
Deep peace of the quiet earth
to you;

Deep peace, deep peace.”

Every Sunrise felt by your Sacred Heart

“For the weak and broken down,
For the lost Souls not yet found,
For the hopeful left in doubt.

Peace to you.
Peace.
The peace of Christ to you.

For the wounded child of man.
For the poor who need a hand.
For the humble who understand.

Peace to you.
Peace.”
– Marc Byrd

I wish you
Peace
my Friend.
The deep Peace
that comes from
God’s Love
for you.

Goodnight.

What Every Child Needs For Good Mental Health

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It is easy for parents to identify their child’s physical needs: nutritious food, warm clothes when it’s cold, bedtime at a reasonable hour. However, a child’s mental and emotional needs may not be as obvious. Good mental health allows children to think clearly, develop socially and learn new skills.  Additionally, good friends and  encouraging words from adults are all important for helping children develop self confidence, high self-esteem, and a healthy emotional outlook on life.

A child’s physical and mental health are both important.

Basics for a child’s good physical health:

  • Nutritious food
  • Adequate shelter and sleep
  • Exercise
  • Immunizations
  • Healthy living environment

Basics for a child’s good mental health:

  • Unconditional love from family
  • Self-confidence and high self-esteem
  • The opportunity to play with other children
  • Encouraging teachers and supportive caretakers
  • Safe and secure surroundings
  • Appropriate guidance and discipline

Give children unconditional love.

Love, security and acceptance should be at the heart of family life.  Children need to know that your love does not depend on his or her accomplishments.

Mistakes and/or defeats should be expected and accepted. Confidence grows in a home that is full of unconditional love and affection.

Nurture children’s confidence and self-esteem.

  • Praise Them – Encouraging children’s first steps or their ability to learn a new game helps them develop a desire to explore and learn about their surroundings. Allow children to explore and play in a safe area where they cannot get hurt.  Assure them by smiling and talking to them often. Be an active participant in their activities. Your attention helps build their self-confidence and self-esteem.
  • Set Realistic Goals – Young children need realistic goals that match their ambitions with their abilities. With your help, older children can choose activities that test their abilities and increase their self-confidence.
  • Be Honest – Do not hide your failures from your children. It is important for them to know that we all make mistakes. It can be very re-assuring to know that adults are not perfect.
  • Avoid Sarcastic Remarks – If a child loses a game or fails a test, find out how he or she feels about the situation. Children may get discouraged and need a pep talk. Later, when they are ready, talk and offer assurance.
  • Encourage children – To not only strive to do their best, but also to enjoy the process. Trying new activities teaches children about teamwork, self-esteem and new skills.

Make time for play!

Encourage Children to Play

To children, play is just fun. However, playtime is as important to their development as food and good care. Playtime helps children be creative, learn problem-solving skills and learn self-control.  Good, hardy play, which includes running and yelling, is not only fun, but helps children to be physically and mentally healthy.

Children Need Playmates

Sometimes it is important for children to have time with their peers.  By playing with others, children discover their strengths and weaknesses, develop a sense of belonging, and learn how to get along with others. Consider finding a good children’s program through neighbors, local community centers, schools, or your local park and recreation department.

Parents Can be Great Playmates

Join the fun! Playing Monopoly or coloring with a child gives you a great opportunity to share ideas and spend time together in a relaxed setting.

Play for Fun

Winning is not as important as being involved and enjoying the activity. One of the most important questions to ask children is “Did you have fun?’’ not “Did you win?”

In our goal-oriented society, we often acknowledge only success and winning. This attitude can be discouraging and frustrating to children who are learning and experimenting with new activities. It’s more important for children to participate and enjoy themselves.

TV use should be monitored

Try not to use TV as a “baby-sitter” on a regular basis.  Be selective in choosing television shows for children. Some shows can be educational as well as entertaining.

School should be fun!

Starting school is a big event for children. “Playing school” can be a positive way to give them a glimpse of school life.

Try to enroll them in a pre-school, Head Start, or similar community program which provides an opportunity to be with other kids and make new friends. Children can also learn academic basics as well as how to make decisions and cope with problems.

Provide appropriate guidance and instructive discipline

Children need the opportunity to explore and develop new skills and independence. At the same time, children need to learn that certain behaviors are unacceptable and that they are responsible for the consequences of their actions.

As members of a family, children need to learn the rules of the family unit. Offer guidance and discipline that is fair and consistent. They will take these social skills and rules of conduct to school and eventually to the workplace.

Suggestions on Guidance and Discipline

  • Be firm, but kind and realistic with your expectations. Children’s development depends on your love and encouragement.
  • Set a good example. You cannot expect self-control and self-discipline from a child if you do not practice this behavior.

Criticize the behavior, not the child.  It is best to say, “That was a bad thing you did,” rather than “You are a bad boy or girl.”

Avoid nagging, threats and bribery. Children will learn to ignore nagging, and threats and bribes are seldom effective.

Give children the reasons “why” you are disciplining them and what the potential consequences of their actions might be.

Talk about your feelings.  We all lose our temper from time to time. If you do “blow your top,” it is important to talk about what happened and why you are angry.  Apologize if you were wrong!

Remember, the goal is not to control the child, but for him or her to learn self-control.

Provide a safe and secure home.

It’s okay for children to feel afraid sometimes.  Everyone is afraid of something at some point in their life. Fear and anxiety grow out of experiences that we do not understand.

If your children have fears that will not go away and affect his or her behavior, the first step is to find out what is frightening them. Be loving, patient and reassuring, not critical. Remember:  the fear may be very real to the child.

Signs of Fear

Nervous mannerisms, shyness, withdrawal and aggressive behavior may be signs of childhood fears. A change in  normal eating and sleeping patterns may also signal an unhealthy fear. Children who “play sick” or feel anxious regularly may have some problems that need attention.

Fear of school can occur following a stressful event such as moving to a new neighborhood, changing schools, or after a bad incident at school.

Children may not want to go to school after a period of being at home because of an illness.

When to seek help

Parents and family members are usually the first to notice if a child has problems with emotions or behavior. Your observations with those of teachers and other caregivers may lead you to seek help for your child. If you suspect a problem or have questions, consult your pediatrician or contact a mental health professional.

Warning Signs

The following signs may indicate the need for professional assistance or evaluation:

  • Decline in school performance
  • Poor grades despite strong efforts
  • Regular worry or anxiety
  • Repeated refusal to go to school or take part in normal children’s activities
  • Hyperactivity or fidgeting
  • Persistent nightmares
  • Persistent disobedience or aggression
  • Frequent temper tantrums
  • Depression, sadness or irritability

Learn more about specific mental health conditions and children

Where to seek help

Information and referrals regarding the types of services that are available for children may be obtained from:

  • Mental health organizations, hotlines and libraries
  • Other professionals such as the child’s pediatrician or school counselor
  • Other families in the community
  • Family network organizations
  • Community-based psychiatric care
  • Crisis outreach teams
  • Education or special education services
  • Family resource centers and support groups
  • Health services
  • Protection and advocacy groups and organizations
  • Self-help and support groups

Other Resources

American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry
www.aacap.org

Federation of Families for Children’s Mental Health
Phone: 703-684-7710
www.ffcmh.org

Family Support America
Phone: 312-338-0900

National Information Center for Children and Youth with Disabilities
Phone 800-695-0285
www.nichcy.org

National Association of School Psychologists
Phone 301-657-0270
www.naspweb.org

What Every Child Needs for Good Mental Health is one in a series of pamphlets on children and teen mental health.

Other Mental Health America titles include:

  • Teen Eating Disorders
  • Teen Depression and Suicide
  • Teen Self-esteem Feeling Good About Yourself
  • Teen Stress: A Guide to Surviving Stress

SOURCES

“Facts for Families,” America Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry
“Children’s and Adolescent’s Mental Health,” US Dept. of Health and Human Services

IMPORTANT  DATES:

April 14 & 17    (Friday and Monday) Good Friday and Easter Holidays
April 28             Scarborough Renaissance Festival (Weather permitting)
May 1                TUITION DUE for 2017-18
May 15 & 16      Shakespeare Production at Stage West Theater
May 22 – 26       Adventure Trip
May 26               Last Day of Semester.

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“I will trust in the Lord
with all my heart;

I will lean not on my own
understanding.”
Proverbs 3:5

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In our Odyssey
to inhabit Eternity,
we may come to see
with each new morning Sun,
our lives have just begun.

My Dear fragile Flowers,
do not fade away
until you see
the Light of Day –
the Light of God’s Love
dawning
like the Sun,
shining down upon
everyone.

“When you feel
a peaceful Joy,
that’s when
you are near
the Truth.”
Rumi

Through the Looking Glass
of Love,
a Secret Garden
beckons you to see
the deep Springs
of Life
flow from the Summers
of Joy and the seasons
of sorrow.

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            Do not fade away.

Clothed we may be
with the Fragrance
of Forgiveness
in the Meadows
of our morrow.

As we
are rescued
by our tears,
purified
by the Heart,
to give us the Gift
of Compassion.

“The deeper that sorrowgibran
carves into your being,
the more Joy
you can contain.”

–  Kahlil Gibran

Yes,
My Friends,
Life is a fact.
But Love
is far, far more.

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    Until you see the Light of Day

Love is
what truly is,
what will always be,
and is so very far away,
until your smile
Graces another precious Life
on this day

Love
is what you desire
and need never fear,
what seems far away
and is near,
so near
you can never see,
so real
it may never be.

  The Light of God’s Love

Love
is all we want,
all we really are.
It is
what we Worship
and what we Pray for.
It is now
and everlasting,
today
and ever more.

The Love in your Heart
was never put there
to stay.
To have Love
and hold it,
all you need do
is
give it away.

“My faith is renewed photo
knowing that quick pleasures are nothing.
But the pleasures of God
are beyond understanding.”
Trevon Morris

                        God’s Love
is Eternally
what was
and will always be.

“In faith,
we know this to be true:
God spoke me into my mother’s womb,
and he has anointed me
to teach his ways to others.”
Pastor Rick Warren

       Love is far, far more.

What came to pass
the moment you were born?
A silent Prayer
was answered from Beyond,
a Sacred Call
that dawned
a new day,
and Hope
became the Horizon
for everyone
your Life touches,
from the very precious moment
YOU
were born.

Goodnight.
branch-and-sun-b“From birth I was cast on you;
from my mother’s womb
you have been my God.”
Psalm 22:10

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When you call His name
It’s like a little Prayer.

“Though I may not know the answers,
I can finally say I am free.
And if the questions led me here,
Then I am who I was born to be.”
Audra Mae, Tim Mikael Larsson,
Johan Fransson, Tobias Lundgren

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The Beauty and Mystery of Life / Life’s Simple Seven / Friday: Monnig Meteorite Gallery

“From a distance there is harmony,
and it echoes through the land.
And it’s the Hope of Hopes,
it’s the Love of Loves,
it’s the Heart of every man.”
– Bette Midler

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     Beauty can liberate your Spirit.

We are never more
than far away.
But wherever we are,
near or far,
we cannot behold
all of God’s Beauty
that surrounds us,
if we look
only with our eyes.

“He has made everything beautiful
in its time.
Also, he has put Eternity
into man’s Heart . . .”
Ecclesiastes 3:11

Beauty
can liberate your Spirit.
Think upon it.
It has happened
many times before.

path-b“You’ll find Beauty
in the simplest things
and in the deepest depths
of complexity.
Beauty exists
for the purpose of
filling your Heart
with Joy.

Beauty’s reason
is pure delight.
Take delight
in Beauty
and it becomes
even MORE Beautiful.

Behold the Beauty
that fills your Life.
It is a Blessing
that has NO
equal.”
Ralph Marston

The Resplendence
of His Love
resides
even in a beautiful drop of rain,
nestled in the arms
of shades of green
on a leaf,
in a tree,
and in the chill
of evening’s breath,
with the warmth
of someone’s arms
around you.

“I wish someone’s arms eilene
were holding me as tight.
But the devil wind blows harder on me,
cold and bare
And someone’s arms won’t be reaching
for there’s nobody there.”
Eilen Jewell

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     God’s Beauty surrounds us

The shadow’s call
will fly away
on our journey
to the Light of day,
and night overcome,
to find the Sun
filling the Promise
of a Beautiful
new day,
a Promise
that lives within
everyone.

How much
of Life
is left to live
and Love?

We are here
but a single fleeting moment,
like a drop of dew
at dawn,
never to stay.
Life

cast into the illusion
of a night and a day.

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                    The illusion

Yes,
Life is brief
at best.
But one hundred percent
of the rest of your Life
is left
for you to Love,
to hold in warm embrace,
to share
with God’s Grace.

My wish for you
is that you truly live

every day,
and save
your death,
for the day
you die.

We choose
to truly live

or just exist,
and die a little
each day.

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Save your death for the day you die.

My Dear Friends,
your mind
is NOT beating
to the rhythm of Life.
It feels not
any emotion.

It is simply
an intermediate
repository
of short term memory,
a biochemical processor
of mere momentary thought,
reflecting upon
Love’s labors lost
and found,
Life Crowned
and made to appear
profound.

Love looks not with the eyes,
but with the mind,
And therefore is winged Cupid 
painted blind.”
William Shakespeare

Long term memory
engrams
reside a trillion fold,
and within every cell
of your very fragile body,
especially
the Heart.
Once in Love,
always in Love.
Once hurt by Love,
the pain is forever
felt.

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Nestled in the arms of shades of green.

Life
expresses itself
in action
and
emotion.
Life happens
from us,
not to us.

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         Dwell in the Beauty.

Life
is the Flower,
but Love,
my Dear,
is the Nectar.

“Life
without Love,
is like a tree
without
blossoms or fruit.”
Kahlil Gibran

And what is the message of Love?
  It is
the Happiness and the Joy
YOU
bring to others.

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The Beauty and Mystery of Life

You know,
my life is based on a true story,

  and so is yours.
And the truth is:
we have not truly lived
every day.

Life is the Gift
of every single
day.

  If you dwell
in the Beauty and Mystery of Life,
  how could you possibly
be sad,
lonely?

  Love is the aroma of
everything that abides
after a Spring rain,
the softness of the grass
upon which you lie,
the warmth of a sunny day,
the taste of a ripe peach,
whatever God allows
to come your way
.

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Love is the boundless Tapestry
of God’s Beautiful Landscape
of Life,
and Loving,
and Living,
and Longing
to be.

Life is truly lived
moment to moment,
smile to smile,
handshake to handshake,
Loving deed
to Loving deed,

to meet someone’s
need.

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    What is the message of Love?

My friends,
we need not fear
death.
Life is not really lost
on the day
we die.

It is only lost
while we live:
lost in sorrow,
lost in a sigh,
lost
in a precious moment
that passed you by,
lost in the sadness
that made you cry,
lost in what
your tender Heart felt
but did not say,
lost in never
feeling grateful to God
for the Beautiful Gift
of another new
Day.

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   The shadow’s call will fly away.

Yes,
we die
moment by moment
and not
in a day.

Don’t be living
to die.

Life
is the most exciting
when we Love someone
more than Life,
when we transcend
this moment
of our awareness,
to discover
we are alive inside
the Hopes and Dreams
of someone else,
that Life
is more than living,
it is Dreaming the Dream
that Love
is all there is,
and all
that should ever
be.

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Dreaming the Dream that Love is all there is.

When we awake
inside the Heart of another,
we discover
the reason for being –
the Beauty of Love.

We die
day by day,
moment by moment.

Life is lost
wallowing in the poverty

of selfish actions.
It is lost wasting
the precious Gift
of time.

We destroy the Gift
of our Life

each moment it is not
fully lived.

Now,
let us busy ourselves
Giving,
Sharing,
Smiling,
Laughing,
Daring,

Forgiving,
Loving,
and truly Living.

Give Life a chance.
Take a chance
on Love!

Goodnight.

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We die moment by moment and not in a day.

“Live as if you were living
a second time,
and as though you had
acted wrongly

the first time.”
– Viktor E. Frankl

To find out if your heart is healthy use Life’s Simple Seven.

They are:
Avoid smoking and using tobacco products.
Be physically active every day.
Eat a heart-healthy diet.
Keep a healthy weight.
Keep your blood pressure healthy.
Keep your total cholesterol healthy.
Keep your blood sugar healthy.

To help you understand how to keep your heart healthy and make it fun and exciting, the American Heart Association has created a website called “My Life Check” (link opens in a new window) that will help you understand your heart health and give you and your family ideas to make the best choices.

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          The Beauty of Love.

“Behold,
what Manner of Love
the Father hath bestowed upon us,
that we should be called
the Sons of God.”
– 1 John 3:1  

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                                            On Friday, Nov. 11
we will meet at 10:00 a.m. to enjoy a guided tour of the Monnig Meteorite Gallery located in the Sid Richardson Building, Room 240 (behind Winton Scott) on the campus of Texas Christian University (telephone: 817-257-6277).

At approximately 11:30 a.m. we will travel to the Barnes and Noble Book Store one block south of the Hulen Shopping Center, 4801 Overton Ridge Blvd. Suite 100, Fort Worth – Telephone Number: (817) 346-2368.

We will dine in that shopping area. Please Do NOT drop your child(ren) off early or without Dr. and Mrs. Anderson present.

On Saturday, February 1, 2003, the Oscar Monnig Meteorite Gallery was opened for the public. This is a world class facility.

FINANCIAL:   No fee at the Meteorite Gallery. Please provide funds for a book.

Lunch: Please provide funds for lunch
Refreshments: Will be available at the bookstore.

Please escort your child(r­­en) to the Meteorite Gallery when dropping off. Do not allow your child(ren) to enter unescorted. Your child(ren) can become lost. Students are NOT to leave the Gallery, Restaurant or Bookstore at any time, for any reason, including the need use the restroom or secure a ride, without the approval of Dr. or Mrs. Anderson.

Students are required to let Dr. Anderson know when your ride has arrived & with whom you are leaving or he will pass out, hit the floor and constantly complain to Mrs. A about all the bruises and pain. Parents – please ask your child if this has been done.

Drop-off will be at the Meteorite Gallery  at 10:00 a.m. & pick up will  be at 2:30 p. m. at the Bookstore.

Uniform pants with a belt, polished shoes & tucked in red monogrammed school shirts are required. PARENTS/GUARDIANS/NEIGHBORS/IN-LAWS are always invited to participate on our trips.

                           IMPORTANT DATES:
Nov. 18                                                         Civil War Museum

Nov. 21-25  (Monday-Friday)                      Thanksgiving / Fall Break

Dec. 1-2                                                        Texas A.G.T. Conference (no school)

Dec. 22 (Thur, – changed from Dec. 20)  Last Day of Fall Semester

Dec. 23 – Jan. 4                                           Winter Break Holiday

Jan. 5 (Thursday)                                        Second Semester begins

Jan. 16 (Monday)                                         Dr. Martin L. King Holiday

Jan. 20                                                          Fort Worth Stock Show

Feb. 20 (Monday)                                         President’s Day Holiday

Mar. 13-17                                                     Spring Break Holidays

April 14  & 17 (Fri. & Mon.)                          Good Friday & Easter

April 28                                                          Scarborough Renaissance Festival

May 22-26                                                      Adventure Trip

May 26                                                           Last Day of Semester

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