Meeting General George Patton / MANY Other Wars to Fight / Friday: Museum of Science and History

 Honoring truly great leaders:
General George S. Patton Jr.
and his son
General George Patton IV

George S. Patton was perhaps
the finest general
to ever lead men into battle.
He was a true American Hero.
And was the only Allied General
feared by the Nazis
in World War II.

George Smith Patton, born in 1885,
was educated at the American Military Academy.

As a child he had difficulty learning to read and write,
but overcame this.
Later in his adult life he became an avid reader.

He was Home schooled,
like our precious children,
until the age of eleven.

Then he was enrolled in Stephen Clark’s School for Boys,
a private school in Pasadena.
  He was a highly intelligent child
and widely read classical military history.

Following graduation he became
an aide-de-camp to General Pershing
in his valiant campaign against Pancho Villa.

And George S. Patton was linked
with daring exploits as this
throughout his military career.

A highly intelligent child .

Following his promotion to Lieutenant Colonel in 1934
in Hawaii, he foresaw the possibility
of a Japanese attack on Pearl Harbor
with a remarkable degree of foresight
and sent a note about it,
four years before the attack occurred.

Following the end of World War II,
on December 9, 1945, General George S. Patton
was severely injured in a traffic accident.
He and his chief of staff were on a day trip
to hunt pheasants

in the country outside Mannheim.
Patton was sitting in the back seat of his 1938 Cadillac.
And at 11:45 a. m., near Neckarstadt,
a truck made a left turn in front of the Cadillac.
Patton’s car hit the front of the truck at a low speed.

Patton’s dog Willie mourns his master.             (This photo moved me to tears.)

Patton was buried at the Luxembourg American Cemetery
in Hamm, Luxembourg along with others in the Third Army.
His request was to be buried with his men.

On March 19, 1947,
his body was moved from the original grave site
to its current prominent location
at the head of his former troops.

My Dear Friends,
I was privileged and Honored
to recently visit the Luxembourg American Cemetery
and the place where General Patton
was laid to rest,
along with over five thousand
of his valiant soldiers
who gave their last full measure of Devotion
to you and me.

By the way,
the American Battle Monuments Commission
maintains 24 permanent American burial grounds
on foreign soil.
Presently there are 124,909 U.S. war dead
interred at these cemeteries.
The total number of Americans
who died for our freedom
in all wars,
is approximately
1,264,000
– 620,000 in the Civil War
and 644,000 in all other conflicts.

Monument in honor of General George Patton Jr.

Our freedom
is the most expensive
thing on this planet.
When you see a Veteran,
thank him or her,
and do what you can
for that wonderful person.

It is difficult
for me to convey the emotion
that I felt
upon visiting the graves
of so very, very many
who lost their lives
combating evil
and tyranny.
I am in tears
as I try to express
my admiration, gratitude and Love
for these truly
Brave and Beautiful People.

Military leaders like General Patton
are very few and very far between.
Please take note of the fact that
we have had military leaders at the precise time
when we needed them for conflicts,
when this country
was truly in need
in order for our country
to survive.

We have been truly Blessed
to have such great leaders
in our desperate times.
I Believe
that his precious Life
was a Gift
to our Nation
from Almighty God.

General George Patton was a man
equal to none.

“I Love this Man
and I think he was terribly under used and maligned.
We need Men like him today.
Gen. Patton was one of the best military minds ever.
May he be resting in the sweetest of
Peace and Grace.”
Pam pamellita

I was especially moved
to visit his grave
and the George Patton Museum
after having met his son,
General George Patton IV
at Fort Hood in 1977.

As fate would have it,
I was invited by the Husband
of my wonderful school secretary
to see Fort Hood.
At the time,
I served as the Principal
of LaVega Primary School.
Claudia Mitchell
mentioned to her Husband,
and member of the Army Reserve,
George Mitchell,
that I wanted to see Fort Hood.
And to my amazement,
she spoke with George
and arranged for me to accompany him
on his next trip.

The rest of the story
is like a Dream come true.

George Patton IV

Shortly after we arrived,
I noticed high in the sky
a very small helicopter
circling above us.
George and I
were visiting and looking at the landscape,
when this tiny copter suddenly
landed a few yards away.

I was startled
when a tall man
ducked down to get out
and came quickly
toward us.

He extended his hand
toward me
and introduced himself as
General George Patton!
I shook his hand
in shock and disbelief.

It was the son
of the very famous General Patton
of World War II.

He stated that he heard
I was here.
(obviously, Mr. Mitchell
shared information about me
before we arrived)
And he wanted to meet me.
Then he said
“I have been looking
for someone like you,
to be on my personal staff.”

I then looked around
to see who he was speaking to.
I found only
George Mitchell and me.

Then he asked,
“How old are you?”

I said I am twenty seven.
The General paused,
looked me up and down,
and stated that I was one year older
than officer’s candidate school would accept.

He shook my hand again
and said that it was nice
to meet me,
and then said thank you
to George,
crawled back into his tiny craft
and disappeared.

I looked at George Mitchell
and asked
“What the Hell?”

George Mitchell just chuckled
and we both slowly
walked away,
I, in disbelief.

                     “Willie”

As it turns out,
this General Patton
was the tenth in a family line of U.S. military men
in American History.

George Patton IV
served in Korea from 1953,
commanding “A” Company of the 140th Tank Battalion,
40th Infantry Division.
He received his first Silver Star
and the Purple Heart in Korea.

Returning to the United States in 1954,
He was assigned to West Point
but later was sent to teach at the
United States Naval Academy.

He served three tours of duty in Vietnam,
and then took command
of the 2nd Medium Tank Battalion, 81st Armored Regiment
of the 1st Armored Division at Fort Hood Texas.

During Patton’s final tour
he was awarded two Distinguished Service Crosses.
And, while in Vietnam, he frequently used helicopters as a mobile command post and was shot down three times and awarded the Distinguished Flying Cross.

After Vietnam,
he was promoted to Brigadier General
before becoming the commanding officer
of the U.S. 2nd Armored Division,
a unit his Father had commanded
in North Africa during World War II,
making this the first time in U.S. Army history
that a father and a son
had both commanded the same division.

          Visiting the wounded.

Like his Father,
Patton IV was a devout Episcopalian
and a believer in reincarnation.
He remembered visiting the site
of a Napoleonic battle in Regensburg, Germany,
where he was gripped by the feeling
that he had once been in combat there.
After his installation he went
to the post Chapel to meditate.
“While there,” he confessed,
“I not only felt the presence of God,
I also felt the presence of my Father.”

Brigadier General Patton
was Deputy Post Commander at Fort Knox during 1972.
He was known by the troops as a
GI General,”
often appearing in the Dining Hall during meal times.
And often he would be behind the serving line.

At Fort Hood
Maj. Gen. George Smith Patton was again in charge
of the Second Armored Division.

To the division it seemed as though the two men
were one and the same,
that George Patton IV was an eerie reincarnation
of his Father, Old Blood and Guts.

Interestingly, he was also stationed near Stuttgart,
where Manfred Rommel, son of Field Marshal Erwin Rommel,
was Mayor of the city.
The sons of the two former adversaries entered into a friendship,
which continued until his death in 2004.
The men shared the same birthday, December 24.

He died from a form of Parkinson’s disease
at the age of 80 in 2004.

General Patton’s young grandson, who still is living,
makes interviews on the History Channel
and the Military Channel,
recalling his family heritage.

I, too,
have a Family Heritage
I am very proud of.
My Uncle,
Eugene R. Retz,
fought in the Battle of Bulge.
He was captured by German forces
and spent over a year
as a prisoner of war.
He suffered from the experience
his entire Life
from coming close to death
by starvation.
.
“I recall when Gene was released from prisoner of war.
I believe it was close to Christmas time
and I was a young boy of about 8 years old.
I had just received an electric American Flyer train for Christmas.
On several occasions, Gene would come over to my home
and he and I would play (to my Joy) with the electric train.
At that time, I knew him only
as gentle and seemingly frail.”
Frank (Pinky) Swihel, Jr.
July 24, 2008 | Surprise, AZ

Dear Friends,
we have many other
Wars
to fight.
And in these struggles,
YOUR
courage and leadership
is needed:

The use of alcohol
results in the death
of two and one half million people each year
and causes serious illness and injury
to many millions more.
Most deaths caused by alcohol results from
injuries, cancer, cardiovascular diseases and liver cirrhosis.

From our friends at Livescience.com:
Drinking alcohol in moderation is more harmful
than previously thought,
according to a new study that concludes
there is no “safe” level
of alcohol consumption.

The comprehensive study,
which analyzed information from millions of people
in nearly 200 countries, found that alcohol
is tied to nearly 3 million deaths globally each year.

What’s more, any protective health effects of alcohol
were offset by the drink’s risk,
including strong links between alcohol consumption
and the risk of cancer
and injuries such as those resulting from car accidents.
[7 Ways Alcohol Affects Your Health]

“The widely held view of the health benefits of alcohol
needs revising,”
the researchers wrote in their paper,
published online Aug. 23 in the journal The Lancet.
“Our results show that
the safest level of drinking is NONE.”
read more

People can be drawn to the sedative effects of alcohol
as a kind of medication,
helping to distract from persistent feelings of sadness.

While alcohol may temporarily relieve
some of the symptoms of depression,
it ultimately serves to worsen depression
on a long-term basis.

Alcohol
is a
depressant.

My Dear Friends,
allow your Love
to blossom into courage
and share your disdain
for this bacterial excrement
(Yes, that is exactly what it is).
Your children
need to know,
and they must know from
YOU,
the truth.

Stop consuming this
CRAP
(yes, it literally is),
especially in their presence.
By drinking in their presence
your are unknowingly giving
your stamp of approval.

The opinion
of a child’s Mother and Father
is more meaningful
to that child,
than any other information
they shall ever, ever
receive.

              A river of NO return.

On yet another battleground,
and there are MANY:

According to the
American Foundation for Suicide Prevention,
over 44,000 people try to commit suicide
each year in the United States.
In 2015, suicide was the second leading cause of death
in people 15 to 34 years of age
and third leading cause of death
in children aged 10 to 14,
according to the CDC.

Suicide has surpassed war
as the military’s leading cause of death.
War was the leading cause of death in the military
nearly every year between 2004 and 2011
until suicides became the top means dying.
More U.S. soldiers killed themselves
(468) than died in combat.

Improving diagnosis
of mental health conditions can help.
Most people who commit suicide
have seen a doctor within the last year,
but many do not get diagnosed with the mental illness
that will ultimately kill them.
Click here for 5 Myths About Suicide, Debunked

Wars
can never be won
in silence.

Please find the courage
to openly discuss the warning signs
and prevention.
Our very, very, fragile
and very HUMAN
brothers and sisters,
and sons and daughters,
need to hear YOU
voice your Love,
your concern,
and your compassion.

WE
have allowed our society to evolve
into an unbelievably complex and stressful
MESS!

Please take three giant steps backward
in time – toward those moments
when JOY was the order of the day.
Reflect upon those precious times
when you, and those around you,
were truly happy.

Now,
do, or do not do,
what took place,
or did not take place,
then,
in order to make you
happy.

      Joy is inside.

Joy does not simply happen to us.
Joy is inside
and not dependent on outside things.
In other words,
it’s a mindset.

Be Childlike.

Love every moment
for its sheer greatness.
Start paying attention to the details,
to the intricacies of life.
Life will amaze you.

Start Loving yourself
for who you are.
And who are
YOU?
No!
You do not know.
No one knows.
ONLY
God knows.

Go to your Father
in Heaven Above
and ASK
for help.

He will not
fail you.
He
LOVES
you.

Relive
the precious moments
when you felt
truly alive,
filled with
Joy.

      ASK for help.

.Visit places
and friends and family members
associated with Happy moments.
Listen to those Songs that inspired you
and made your Heart jump for Joy.
Get in touch with old friends
who were genuine towards you.

If you truly
want to be Joyful,
put your mind
outside
of your body.
DO SOMETHING
FOR SOMEONE ELSE!
Help another living person.
Put your mind to work
on THEIR problems and difficulties.
STOP thinking about
yourself.

The greatest feeling of JOY
your will ever come to know,
is when you help another
truly in need.

It is important to realize
that the mind can think of only
one thing
at a time.
And this,
My Friend,
is a GIFT.
If we put our mind to work
thinking of helping
someone other than
our self,
we simply cannot
focus upon our
worries, fears and problems.
Yes,
the inability to multi-task
(which is an illusion),
is truly a
Gift.
read more

So,
put this knowledge
to work.

                 Truly a Gift.

Take the time
to do the things
that truly
matter in Life.

NO.
You will not be as successful,
or driven
or egotistical,
or well dressed,
or deluded by the illusions of
wealth and money.

YOU
will be
Happy
and
alive.

Goodnight.

For Friday:
The Museum of Science and History

For Philosophy Class
this week:

2018-19 Anderson School Calendar
First Semester

Nov. 2                                                  Museum of Science & History

Nov. 19 – 23                                        Thanksgiving / Fall Break

T. B. A.                                                Texas A.G.T. Conference (no school)

Dec. 7                                                  Texas Civil War Museum (Do wars …………………………………………………….ever really end?)

Dec. 21 (Friday)                                   Last Day of Fall Semester

Dec. 24 – Jan. 7                                   Winter Break Holidays

Second Semester

January 8 – May 24   2019

Jan. 8 (Tuesday)                                 Second Semester begins

Jan. 21 (Monday)                               Rev. Dr. Martin L. King Holiday

Jan. 25 (Friday)                                  Fort Worth Stock Show

Feb. 18 (Monday)                               President’s Day Holiday

Mar. 8 (Friday)                                   Texas Storytelling Festival in Denton

Mar. 11 -15                                         Spring Break Holidays

April 19 & 22 (Fri. & Mon.)                 Good Friday & Easter Holidays

April 30, (Tuesday)                             Scarborough Renaissance Festival ………….                                               Student Day

May 20                                                Prep. Day for Adventure Trip        …………………………………………………….(no school)

May 21 – 24                                        Adventure Trip

May 24                                                Last Day of Semester

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(to be announced later) for In-service Training.
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Tell Your Heart To Say, “YES” / Freeing Your Truest Self / Friday: 1/2 Price Books and A Movie / 2018-19 School Calendar

“Faith
is the assurance of things hoped for,

the conviction of things not seen.”
Hebrews 11:1

   Life begins again and again.

Taking
a leap of Faith
is just
letting your mind
quietly tell your Heart
to say,
“Yes”.

And
when you do,
when all the trials and sorrows
and suffering and pain
have led you
to this moment,
you will discover,
you were looking for
Home,
and you were Home,
and did not
know it.

       We all live under the same sky.

There is Glorious Splendor
in our quest,
this hunger for Life
that lives within,
this thirst for Love
that will never end,
as each day by day
Dawns anew,
and Life
begins again and again.

“We all live under the same sky,
but we don’t all have
the same Horizon.”
Konrad Adenauer

And,
in the Dawn
of our Faith,
we too
are born anew,
and live again.

Let your mind quietly tell your Heart to say, “Yes”.

My Dear Friends,
we are
more than what we seem,
Oh Child of God,
of Unending Grace.

We will never behold
what can never be told,
never held in the mind
of Man,
never found
in Time or Space.
But,
through our Faith
we are born again
by God’s Everlasting
and Loving Grace.

       In the Dawn of our Faith.

Like
a candle in the wind,
flickering for the
moment,
the Light
of your Life
can become a reflection
of God’s Love.

Have Faith,
my Friend,
and let the Light
of God’s Love
shine from within.

We don’t all have the same Horizon.

Can knowledge
arise
to reassure someone
that Life is not
a singular, lonely journey,
leading to nowhere,
to nothing
but death?

Life is complicated,
vast and filled with conflicting elements.
No one of us can find
all the answers.
Even endless nights
of worry and toil
will not solve
all of Life’s mysteries.
We may stay up all night
and worry all day,
trying to think through and understand
the complicated events
and circumstances of our lives.
But we will never
fully understand.

“When I applied my mind to know Wisdom,
and to see the business that is done on Earth,
how neither day nor night one’s eyes see sleep;
then I saw all the work of God,
that man cannot find out
the work that is done under the sun.
However much man may toil in seeking,
he will not find it out;
even though a wise man claims to know,
he cannot find it out.

Ecclesiastes 8:16-17

These words were penned
by one of the Wisest men
of the ancient World,
a man known for Wisdom
throughout his reign as
the King of Israel.
And yet,
he admitted that mankind
cannot know
all the answers.

Our diligence in thoughtful labor
will not unravel Life’s mysteries:
“However much man may toil in seeking,
he will not find it out.”
We will still be left asking
the Eternal,
Why?

“For as the Heavens are higher than the Earth,
so are My Ways higher than your ways
and My Thoughts than your thoughts,”
Isaiah 55:9

Hebrews 11:1 reassures us
that Faith  is
“being sure of what we hope for
and certain of what we do not see.”

Nothing
is more important than Faith,
our Belief in and Trust
in something without proof.
The Bible
has much to say about Faith
and how important it is.
It is so important
that without Faith,
we have no place with God,
and it is impossible to please Him.
(Hebrews 11:6).

Faith is Belief
in the one, true God,
without actually seeing Him.

“Bad things happen to good people
just about as often as they

happen to bad people.
We have not been given a shield
protecting us from misfortune,
but there is within all of us,
waiting to be discovered,
the strength to deal with adversity,
to overcome it, and learn from it
so we can still find
Love, laughter and joy
despite it.”

Michael Josephson

In this time of fear
When prayer so often
Proved in vain,
Hope seemed like the summer birds
Too swiftly flown away.
Yet now I’m standing here,
With Heart so full I can’t explain,
Seeking Faith and speaking words
I never thought I’d say.
There can be miracles
when you Believe.
Though Hope is frail
It’s hard to kill,
Who knows what miracles
You can achieve
When you believe.
Somehow you will.

You will when
you Believe.”

Stephen Schwartz

By Faith
Abel offered a pleasing sacrifice to the Lord;
by faith Noah prepared the ark in a time when rain was unknown;
by faith Abraham left his home and obeyed God’s command
to go he knew not where, then willingly offered up his only son;
by faith Moses led the children of Israel out of Egypt;
by faith Rahab received the spies of Israel and saved her life.

Many heroes of Faith
are mentioned in the Bible
“who through Faith
conquered kingdoms,
administered justice,
gained what was promised;
shut the mouths of Lions,
quenched the fury of flames,
escaped the edge of the sword;
had weakness was turned to strength;
became powerful in battle and routed armies”.
Faith is demonstrated by action.

Let YOUR Faith
be YOUR strength.

Goodnight.

  Able to “move mountains”.

“Faith”,
Jesus says,
“If it were the size of even
the smallest of the seeds,
the mustard bush,
they would be able to
move mountains.”
Matthew 17:20

“Stress, depression, and anxiety
are caused when we are living
to please others.”
Paulo Coehlo

Freeing Your Truest Self
When You’ve Been Anxious
to Please Everyone Else

I came from a broken and very poor family. My father left the house during my teenage years, and it was just my mother, little brother, and I remaining.

Like most single parents going through the hardships of single handedly caring for two children, my mother was often anxious about my well-being. And she overcompensated for her anxiety by being overbearing.

I unfortunately inherited this anxiety.

For the longest time, it was a daily battle for me.

You know the feeling.

Your muscles tense up, you feel an overwhelming sense of fear, and your heart begins to race.

It’s the uncomfortable worries that surface as you play out worst-case scenarios in your head.

Though we can feel anxiety about debt, work pressures, or any number of challenges, for me, it was mostly triggered by the fear of not being good enough and disappointing other people.

Professor Harry Lacey

Professor Lacey teaches Latin, Greek & Epic Literature.

My struggle with anxiety was one of the most crippling experiences, and as a result, I never grew.

So, is it really possible to overcome anxiety?

I realized the answer is yes, but first I needed to understand where my anxiety was coming from.

Anxiety is Your Brain Trying to Protect You

There’s a small, almond-sized part of your brain known as the amygdala whose main job is to look out for your survival. For example, if a mountain lion were chasing you, your amygdala would trigger fear so that it would activate your body to run for your life or grab a weapon to fight.

Your amygdala doesn’t only watch out for your physical survival. You feel the same kind of fear when you are nervous about giving a public speech or going on a first date.

When you experience anxiety in these situations, it’s your brain’s way of trying to help you survive emotionally.

Unfortunately, your amygdala is not the greatest at accurately gauging how dangerous a situation might be. It often blows things way out of proportion.

I remember what it felt like when I was a kid and wouldn’t see my mother the whole day because she was always working late. I’d wait for her to talk about something I was excited about only to have her turn the conversation toward things about myself that I should be improving.

Even though this was her way of trying to make sure I survive in the world, because we were barely getting by, the constant requests to do things better made me feel like I wasn’t good enough.

It felt like no matter what I did, I could never fully please her. If I accomplished something she requested of me, I’d get a quick “thank you,” then she’d move on to talk about what else I should do.

Philippe Arrighi teaches French and French History and Culture.

I found it most hurtful when she would talk about how great someone else was. She’d update me about some amazing thing that one of her client’s children had accomplished and suggest that I should try to follow in that person’s footsteps.

All that did was make me think that something was wrong with me.

I ended up with low self-esteem, and because I thought I was worthless, nothing was scarier than the thought of making mistakes and failing, because that would confirm that I was not good enough.

This was why I never took too many risks and searched only for options that seemed to have a guarantee for success.

My anxiety made me develop a behavior of perfectionism, and it was ruining my life. The more I let it make my decisions for me, or lack of decisions for that matter, the further I felt from who I wanted to become.

Ironically, becoming a perfectionist was my brain’s solution to helping me feel good enough.

“Perfectionism
is the belief that if we live perfect,
look perfect, and act perfect,
we can minimize or avoid the pain
of blame, judgement, and shame.
It’s a shield.”

Brené Brown

This toxic behavior put me in an endless cycle of working hard to achieve all sorts of cool things so that one day, I might feel good about myself. In reality, every accomplishment felt anti-climactic. I was always dissatisfied and constantly looking for the next big accomplishment to chase.

No matter how much I succeeded, it was never enough for me, just like I never felt like I was enough for other people.

It wasn’t until I met someone who could see the real me that I finally figured out how to overcome my anxiety.

The Power of a Safe Space

When I was a teenager, a man named Anthony saved my life. If it weren’t for him, I would’ve gone down a much more self-destructive path.

He never questioned the mistakes I’d made unless I wanted to talk about them. And when I didn’t want to talk about them, he’d openly share his own horrible mistakes.

I never once felt judged by him, nor did I feel like he had a set of expectations for me.

Anthony helped me feel safe.

People touched by you will not be ordinary anymore.

People touched by
you will not be
ordinary anymore.

I realized for the first time that for most of my life, I didn’t feel safe to be who I was.

I was almost always in survival mode, shielding myself emotionally. All my behavior was in reaction to the anxiety of not feeling good enough for other people.

Being in a safe space finally helped me put my guard down and look at myself objectively. It was in these moments that I became deeply aware that being a perfectionist wasn’t the answer to my anxiety, and that I was heading down a path toward depression.

I didn’t come to this realization sooner because the pre-frontal cortex, the thinking part of the brain, is turned off when the brain’s in survival mode. This pre-frontal cortex is what’s capable of rational behavior, critical thinking, and emotional regulation.

The only way to calm down the survival mode of your brain is to place yourself in environments where you feel safe.

The thinking part of your brain will help you understand where your anxiety comes from and figure out an effective way to handle it.

It was in this safe space that I finally realized that I had the power and responsibility to stay true to myself.

How I Overcame My Anxiety

Deep down, I hated myself for constantly giving in to other people’s expectations of me and for letting their standards determine my self-worth.

But the reality is that I let this happen.

And here’s the even harsher truth.

I let it happen because it’s much easier to live a life that someone else wants you to live.

The scariest part is that once you take ownership of the one life you have, you have no one to blame if things go wrong. At least following someone else’s path gave me the right to blame him or her.

My brain would rather me let others’ standards dictate my life and sacrifice my mental health than do anything that might make me experience the emotional pain of looking like a failure and falling short of someone’s standards.

Now that I knew all my anxiety was coming from my brain being in survival mode, I needed to figure out a way to regularly calm it down.

          A beautiful sunset at the Anderson School.

This was when I discovered meditation. 

I learned that brain scans in studies have revealed that meditation calms the amygdala and activates the thinking part of your brain.

I started using the free version of an app called Head space, and I learned how effective it can be to simply be present and enter a state of awareness.

For most of my life, I’d been tossed left and right by my circumstances and was a slave to my emotional reactions. Meditation helped me become more aware of why I was behaving the way I did, especially in these reactive moments.

I finally saw that almost all my anxiety led to irrational thoughts and behaviors.

For example, I remember when I decided to start my business, it was hard to build my audience. Nobody was reading any of my articles, and I wasn’t getting any traffic on my website.

I’ve given up on other ventures plenty of times before, and I was ready to give up on this one too. I took it personally and started telling myself the familiar narrative that I didn’t have what it takes. I just wasn’t good enough. Then I recognized that I was reacting to my anxiety as I’d always done, and I could choose a different way.

I was able to be aware and think to myself, “I’m feeling anxious right now because this moment feels similar to a couple of painful experiences I had in the past.”

The moment I became aware of this I gave myself the power to make a choice rather than to habitually react.

So I told myself, “The old you would put yourself down and give up, but the new you can try to assess the situation objectively and see what is really setting you back.”

After doing this, I was finally able to grasp that I didn’t have business challenges because of my character, but most likely because of the strategies and tactics I was using to market myself. Once I used different strategies, I got different results.

Your Best Life Starting Now

In order to live our best life, we have to calm our anxiety about disappointing other people and not being good enough, and find the courage to be true to ourselves.

It is one of the hardest decisions you will ever make, but it will also be one of the best.

The first step to changing my life for the better was having awareness. The next key step was focus.

What you focus on is usually what you will gravitate toward.

The key to living your best life is not to run away from who you were, but to run toward who you want to become.

As I meditated, my anxiety calmed down and I started to have such a clear idea of the person I wanted to be.

I no longer wanted to be the anxious person who thought he was worthless. I wanted to become a great husband, father, and leader. Rather than worrying about not being able to meet these expectations, I started to engage the thinking part of my brain to figure out what needed to be done.

I didn’t have all the answers, but I knew I could only make this life I wanted a reality if I started making changes and learned as I went.

I wanted to learn what it took to become a better husband, so I started going to marriage counseling.

I wanted to become a better parent, so I researched how children are wired and how to best communicate with them.

I wanted to be a better leader, so I invested in credible leadership and coaching courses.

And I did these things not because I wanted to prove something to myself, but more because it mattered to me deeply and I knew it was a part of who I truly was.

I’ve spent too much time running away from opportunities for growth because I was afraid I might not be good enough. The problem, though, was that I was running away without knowing where I wanted to go. I ended up in destinations where I felt more lost than ever, and my anxiety kept catching up to me in the end.

Now, whenever I experience anxiety, I tell myself, “This is anxiety.” I thank my brain for looking out for me and then I ask myself, “What do I need to focus on in this moment, and how can I get it?”

Then, surprisingly, the anxiety calms down and the thinking part of my brain activates to try and figure out the best way to go about things.

This is what changed everything for me.

And I know it can for you too.

While people might have expectations for you, the world desperately needs the power that comes from you living your most authentic life.

If you are battling anxiety about not being good enough or pleasing other people, take a moment to slow down and acknowledge what you are experiencing. Then, identify what you need to feel safe so you can turn on the thinking part of your brain and start uncovering the answers you most need. That might mean meditating, talking to a close friend, or even just getting out in nature for a walk.

It’s time to take a deep breath, be compassionate with yourself, and decide who it is you want to be.

Stay aware and focused and you’ll be there sooner than you think.

About Eugene Choi

Eugene works with professionals who are frustrated because they’ve made it as far as they can go and start to feel stuck. His unique method of coaching helps them figure out what their next steps can be whether it’s a way to grow within their company or even switch careers.

2018-19 Anderson School Calendar

First Semester

September 4 – December 21   2018

Sept. 4 (Tuesday)                              First Day of First Semester

Oct 8 (Monday)                                 Columbus Day Holiday

Nov. 19 – 23                                       Thanksgiving / Fall Break

T. B. A.                                                 Texas A.G.T. Conference (no school)

Dec. 21 (Friday)                                 Last Day of Fall Semester

Dec. 24 – Jan. 7                                  Winter Break Holidays

Second Semester

January 8 – May 24   2019

Jan. 8 (Tuesday)                                 Second Semester begins

Jan. 21 (Monday)                               Rev. Dr. Martin L. King Holiday

Feb. 18 (Monday)                               President’s Day Holiday

Mar. 11 -15                                         Spring Break Holidays

April 19 & 22 (Fri. & Mon.)             Good Friday & Easter Holidays

May 20                                                Prep. Day for Adventure Trip     (no school)

May 21 – 24                                        Adventure Trip

May 24                                                Last Day of Semester

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(to be announced later) for In-service Training.
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(Calendar 2018-2019 / approved 7-29-18)

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