The Reason We Love Life / Does The Soul Exist? Evidence Says ‘Yes’ / Garlic in Cancer Prevention / Sept. 1 School Begins .

‘Know from whence you came.
If you know
whence you came,
there are absolutely
no limitations
to where you can go.’

James Baldwin

                 We reflect the Joy in our Hearts.

The reason
we Love Life,
is simple
Life
is Love.

LOVE
is the most powerful energy
in existence.
And when we send
this amazing and indefinable
energy
to each other,
we reflect the Joy
in our Hearts.

“To watch us dance
is to hear our Hearts speak”.
Hopi, Native American Tribe, proverb

When
we let the Love of God
flow through our Heart
and out into the World,
we spread the Message
of God’s Love.

Life is a song,
and our Love
is the lyrics.

Love permeates everything.
It is all that Truly is,
and all that ever was,
and all that will ever be.

Love stays with you.
And it changes
the Shoreline of Life
Beautifully,
by the ebb
and flow
of seas,
filled with our tears of Joy
and many memories.

The sounds of Nature blend melodious song to mirror Salvation.

The Beautiful Message of Love
that you share,
is a shining Light.
Your Loving words
enable others to feel
the Love in their Hearts
through the day,
and enables them to see
through the long night.
 Happiness
need not hide,
waiting to be found.

Happiness cannot be found
through great effort and willpower,
but is already here,
right now,

in relaxation and letting go.
Lama Gendun Rinpoche
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Send a Blessing of Love.
Shower others
with your smiles.
Share the Love
from God
Above.

“Peace begins
with a smile.”
Mother Teresa

Saying,
“I’ll see you later.”
is
engaging the meaning
of the moment –
in the Circle
of Life.

,
“When you Pray
enter into your closet
and when you have shut the door,
Pray to your Father which is in secret
and your Father which is in secret
shall reward you
openly.”
Matthew 6:6

My Friends,
PRAYER
is also an entrance
into the subconscious.
It is
perfect medicine
for our Souls.
.
We
cannot put into words
all the Beauty
that resonates in our
Spiritual Being.
But,
we can give Thanks
for the Journey
of discovery.

We faint and flickering shadows
ever dance
in the Beautiful Light
of Love.

You
are the only one
that can feel
into the depths
of your Sacred Inner Being,
and listen to your Heart
tell the Beautiful Story
of a
World where YOU
can be Happy
and Loved,
and Truly alive
in Peace and Harmony.

Yes.
Life is a song.
Let’s sing it
together.

The Beautiful Message of Love you share is a shining Light.

.Reality,
My Dear Friends,
is projected outward
from
the Heart and mind.
If
you Believe,
it exists.

Our inner psychological state
is projected outward
and gains
physical reality.
This is regardless of the nature
of your psychological state.
This applies to everyone.
And,
you can use this knowledge
for your own benefit.
You can change
your own conditions.

The Bible says,
“Without Faith
it is impossible to please Him [God],

for he who comes to God must Believe
that He is and that He is a rewarder
of those who diligently seek Him”
Hebrews 11:6

If we seek Him,
will we find Him?
Yes.
.
God says,
“You will seek Me and find Me,
when you search for Me
with all your Heart”

Jeremiah 29:13

Yes,
we need to change
the World.
But to change the World
around us,
we must change
OUR World
inside.

“Let there be peace on earth
And let it begin with me.
Let there be peace on earth
The peace that was meant to be.
With God as our Father
Brothers all are we.
Let me walk with my brother
In perfect Harmony.
Let peace begin with
me.

Let this be the moment now.
With every step I take
Let this be my solemn vow.
To take each moment
And live each moment
In peace eternally.
Let there be peace on earth
And let it begin with
ME.”

Jill Jackson-Miller,
wrote this Beautiful song
after discovering what she called
“Life-saving Joy of God’s Peace
and unconditional Love.”

In the inner Core
of our Souls,
we find Faith.

We cannot doubt
we exist,
because we exist
to doubt.

Do not doubt
that God Loves you.
He Loves you
enough to liberate your mind
to doubt.
He Loves you enough
to let your precious Heart
show you the way
to His Heart.

Be at Peace
My Friend.
God is more real
than we are.

And so is
His Love.

Love that dwells
within your Sacred Heart,
will never lay upon an Altar
of vain repose.
God sets Glorious the setting Sun,
as the sounds of Nature
blend melodious song
to mirror Salvation,
made manifest Majestic
in every Human Heart
that beholds the
Eternal Light
of the Everlasting
Love of God.

Goodnight.


“Oh Heart,
If one should say to you
That the Soul perishes like the body,
Answer that the Flower withers
But the seed remains.”
Kahlil Gibran

From:
psychologytoday.com

by Robert Lanza M.D.

Biocentrism

Does The Soul Exist?
Evidence Says
Yes

New scientific theory recognizes Life’s Spiritual Dimension.

The reality of the Soul is among the most important questions of life. Although religions go on and on about its existence, how do we know if Souls really exist? A string of new scientific experiments helps answer this ancient spiritual question.
 
Consider the famous two-slit experiment. When you watch a particle go through the holes, it behaves like a bullet, passing through one slit or the other. But if no one observes the particle, it exhibits the behavior of a wave and can pass through both slits at the same time. This and other experiments tell us that unobserved particles exist only as ‘waves of probability’ as the great Nobel laureate Max Born demonstrated in 1926.
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They’re statistical predictions – nothing but a likely outcome.
Until observed, they have no real existence;
only when the mind sets the scaffolding in place,
can they be thought of as having duration or a position in space. Experiments make it increasingly clear that even
mere knowledge in the experimenter’s mind
is sufficient to convert possibility to reality.
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Many scientists dismiss the implications of these experiments,
because until recently, this observer-dependent behavior was thought to be confined to the subatomic world. However, this is being challenged by researchers around the world. In fact, a team of physicists (Gerlich et al, Nature Communications 2:263, 2011) showed that quantum weirdness also occurs in the Human-scale world. They studied huge compounds composed of up to 430 atoms, and confirmed that this strange quantum behavior extends into the larger World we live in.
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Importantly,

this has a direct bearing on the question of whether Humans and other living creatures have Souls. As Immanuel Kant pointed out over 200 years ago, everything we experience – including all the colors, sensations and objects we perceive – are nothing but representations in our mind. Space and time are simply the mind’s tools for putting it all together. Now, to the amusement of idealists, scientists are beginning dimly to recognize that those rules make existence itself possible. Indeed, the experiments above suggest that objects only exist with real properties if they are observed. The results not only defy our classical intuition, but suggest that a part of the mind – the Soul – is immortal and exists outside of space and time.

(Immanuel Kant is the central figure in modern philosophy.
He synthesized early modern rationalism and empiricism,
set the terms for nineteenth and twentieth century philosophy,
and continues to exercise a significant influence today in metaphysics, epistemology, ethics, political philosophy, aesthetics, and other fields.)

Immanuel Kant

The idea of the Soul is bound up with the idea of a future life and our belief in a continued existence after death. It’s said to be the ultimate animating principle by which we think and feel, but isn’t dependent on the body. Many infer its existence without scientific analysis or reflection. Indeed, the mysteries of birth and death, the play of consciousness during dreams (or after a few martinis), and even the commonest mental operations – such as imagination and memory – suggest the existence of a vital life force – an élan vital – that exists independent of the body.

Yet, the current scientific paradigm doesn’t recognize this spiritual dimension of life. We’re told we’re just the activity of carbon and some proteins; we live awhile and die. And the universe? It too has no meaning. It has all been worked out in the equations – no need for a soul. But biocentrism – a new ‘theory of everything’ – challenges this traditional, materialistic model of reality. In all directions, this outdated paradigm leads to insoluble enigmas, to ideas that are ultimately irrational. But knowledge is the prelude to wisdom, and soon our worldview will catch up with the facts.

Of course, most Spiritual people view the soul as emphatically more definitive than the scientific concept. It’s considered the incorporeal essence of a person, and is said to be immortal and transcendent of material existence. But when scientists speak of the soul (if at all), it’s usually in a materialistic context, or treated as a poetic synonym for the mind. Everything knowable about the “soul” can be learned by studying the functioning of the brain. In their view, neuroscience is the only branch of scientific study relevant to understanding the soul.

Traditionally, science has dismissed the soul as an object of human belief, or reduced it to a psychological concept that shapes our cognition of the observable natural world. The terms “life” and “death” are thus nothing more than the common concepts of “biological life” and “biological death.” The animating principle is simply the laws of chemistry and physics. You (and all the poets and philosophers that ever lived) are just dust orbiting the core of the Milky Way galaxy.

As I sit here in my office surrounded by piles of scientific books, I can’t find a single reference to the soul, or any notion of an immaterial, eternal essence that occupies our being. Indeed, a soul has never been seen under an electron microscope, nor spun in the laboratory in a test tube or ultra-centrifuge. According to these books, nothing appears to survive the human body after death.

While neuroscience has made tremendous progress illuminating the functioning of the brain, why we have a subjective experience remains mysterious. The problem of the soul lies exactly here, in understanding the nature of the self, the “I” in existence that feels and lives life. But this isn’t just a problem for biology and cognitive science, but for the whole of Western natural philosophy itself.

Our current worldview – the world of objectivity and naïve realism – is beginning to show fatal cracks. Of course, this will not surprise many of the philosophers and other readers who, contemplating the works of men such as Plato, Socrates and Kant, and of Buddha and other great spiritual teachers, kept wondering about the relationship between the universe and the mind of man.

Recently, biocentrism and other scientific theories have also started to challenge the old physico-chemical paradigm, and to ask some of the difficult questions about life: Is there a soul? Does anything endure the ravages of time?

Life and consciousness are central to this new view of being, reality and the cosmos. Although the current scientific paradigm is based on the belief that the world has an objective observer-independent existence, real experiments suggest just the opposite. We think life is just the activity of atoms and particles, which spin around for a while and then dissipate into nothingness. But if we add life to the equation, we can explain some of the major puzzles of modern science, including the uncertainty principle, entanglement, and the fine-tuning of the laws that shape the universe.

“The Hope of another Life”
wrote Will Durant,
“gives us courage to meet our own death,
and to bear with the death of our Loved ones;
we are twice armed if we fight with Faith.

And we are thrice armed
if we fight with science.

Garlic in Prostate Cancer Prevention

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Can garlic help prevent and fight prostate cancer, the most common non-skin cancer in America? Several studies suggest garlic and garlic supplements offer protection against cancer, including prostate cancer. These anti-cancer effects are thought to be largely attributable to organosulphur compounds which are produced during the decomposition of allicin. Allicin, in turn, is formed in raw garlic cloves when you crush or chop them.

Additionally, garlic – especially raw garlic – is rich in vitamin C, a nutrient that has been used to prevent and treat prostate cancer.

The rest of this article provides details of recent studies that have been carried out to investigate a possible link between eating garlic and a lowered risk of prostate cancer:

A population-based, case-control study conducted in Shanghai, China, found that men who ate more than 10 grams of Allium vegetables, particularly garlic and scallions, per day were 50% less likely to get prostate cancer than those who ate only a little bit of garlic. The reduced risk of prostate cancer associated with garlic consumption was independent of total caloric intake, body size, and consumption of other foods. This study appeared in the November 2002 edition of the Journal of the National Cancer Institute.

In another case-control study, a group of researchers from Oxford asked 328 men diagnosed with prostate cancer before the age of 75 and 328 controls to provide details of their dietary habits. The controls were matched for age. Garlic and garlic supplements, along with a few other foods such as beans and peas, were found to have a protective effect against prostate cancer. This study was published in the renowned British Journal of Cancer in 1997.

However, not all case-control studies support the theory that garlic helps reduce the risk of prostate cancer. A large 2006 study that analyzed dietary data from a number of Italian and Swiss case-control studies found a significant association between high garlic consumption and a reduced risk of several cancers, but not of prostate cancer. The scientists responsible for this study believe that in case of prostate cancer, hormonal factors may play a bigger role in the development of the disease than dietary factors. This study on garlic and cancer was published in the November 2006 edition of the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition.

GarlicThe Bottom Line

Some studies suggest that garlic can indeed help prevent and fight prostate cancer, while other studies imply that garlic does not have a significant protective effect against prostate cancer. However, there are numerous studies that show that a diet rich in garlic is good for your overall health and vitality, and that eating garlic regularly can reduce the risk of several types of cancer including stomach, mouth and throat, kidney, and colorectal cancers. This evidence supports the idea of including garlic in an anti-prostate-cancer diet (or almost any other diet aimed at improving health).

References

1. Hsing AW, Chokkalingam AP, Gao YT, et al (2002). Allium vegetables and risk of prostate cancer: A population-based study. Journal of the National Cancer Institute, 94(21):1648-1651.
2. Key T.J., Silcocks, Davey, Appleby, and Bishop (1997). A case-control study of diet and prostate cancer. British Journal of Cancer, 76(5), 678-687
3. Galeone C, Pelucchi, Levi, Negri, Franceschi, Talamini, Giacosa, La Vecchia (2006). Onion and garlic use and human cancer. American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, 84(5), 1027-32.

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Tell Your Heart To Say, “YES” / Freeing Your Truest Self / Friday: 1/2 Price Books and A Movie / 2018-19 School Calendar

“Faith
is the assurance of things hoped for,

the conviction of things not seen.”
Hebrews 11:1

   Life begins again and again.

Taking
a leap of Faith
is just
letting your mind
quietly tell your Heart
to say,
“Yes”.

And
when you do,
when all the trials and sorrows
and suffering and pain
have led you
to this moment,
you will discover,
you were looking for
Home,
and you were Home,
and did not
know it.

       We all live under the same sky.

There is Glorious Splendor
in our quest,
this hunger for Life
that lives within,
this thirst for Love
that will never end,
as each day by day
Dawns anew,
and Life
begins again and again.

“We all live under the same sky,
but we don’t all have
the same Horizon.”
Konrad Adenauer

And,
in the Dawn
of our Faith,
we too
are born anew,
and live again.

Let your mind quietly tell your Heart to say, “Yes”.

My Dear Friends,
we are
more than what we seem,
Oh Child of God,
of Unending Grace.

We will never behold
what can never be told,
never held in the mind
of Man,
never found
in Time or Space.
But,
through our Faith
we are born again
by God’s Everlasting
and Loving Grace.

       In the Dawn of our Faith.

Like
a candle in the wind,
flickering for the
moment,
the Light
of your Life
can become a reflection
of God’s Love.

Have Faith,
my Friend,
and let the Light
of God’s Love
shine from within.

We don’t all have the same Horizon.

Can knowledge
arise
to reassure someone
that Life is not
a singular, lonely journey,
leading to nowhere,
to nothing
but death?

Life is complicated,
vast and filled with conflicting elements.
No one of us can find
all the answers.
Even endless nights
of worry and toil
will not solve
all of Life’s mysteries.
We may stay up all night
and worry all day,
trying to think through and understand
the complicated events
and circumstances of our lives.
But we will never
fully understand.

“When I applied my mind to know Wisdom,
and to see the business that is done on Earth,
how neither day nor night one’s eyes see sleep;
then I saw all the work of God,
that man cannot find out
the work that is done under the sun.
However much man may toil in seeking,
he will not find it out;
even though a wise man claims to know,
he cannot find it out.

Ecclesiastes 8:16-17

These words were penned
by one of the Wisest men
of the ancient World,
a man known for Wisdom
throughout his reign as
the King of Israel.
And yet,
he admitted that mankind
cannot know
all the answers.

Our diligence in thoughtful labor
will not unravel Life’s mysteries:
“However much man may toil in seeking,
he will not find it out.”
We will still be left asking
the Eternal,
Why?

“For as the Heavens are higher than the Earth,
so are My Ways higher than your ways
and My Thoughts than your thoughts,”
Isaiah 55:9

Hebrews 11:1 reassures us
that Faith  is
“being sure of what we hope for
and certain of what we do not see.”

Nothing
is more important than Faith,
our Belief in and Trust
in something without proof.
The Bible
has much to say about Faith
and how important it is.
It is so important
that without Faith,
we have no place with God,
and it is impossible to please Him.
(Hebrews 11:6).

Faith is Belief
in the one, true God,
without actually seeing Him.

“Bad things happen to good people
just about as often as they

happen to bad people.
We have not been given a shield
protecting us from misfortune,
but there is within all of us,
waiting to be discovered,
the strength to deal with adversity,
to overcome it, and learn from it
so we can still find
Love, laughter and joy
despite it.”

Michael Josephson

In this time of fear
When prayer so often
Proved in vain,
Hope seemed like the summer birds
Too swiftly flown away.
Yet now I’m standing here,
With Heart so full I can’t explain,
Seeking Faith and speaking words
I never thought I’d say.
There can be miracles
when you Believe.
Though Hope is frail
It’s hard to kill,
Who knows what miracles
You can achieve
When you believe.
Somehow you will.

You will when
you Believe.”

Stephen Schwartz

By Faith
Abel offered a pleasing sacrifice to the Lord;
by faith Noah prepared the ark in a time when rain was unknown;
by faith Abraham left his home and obeyed God’s command
to go he knew not where, then willingly offered up his only son;
by faith Moses led the children of Israel out of Egypt;
by faith Rahab received the spies of Israel and saved her life.

Many heroes of Faith
are mentioned in the Bible
“who through Faith
conquered kingdoms,
administered justice,
gained what was promised;
shut the mouths of Lions,
quenched the fury of flames,
escaped the edge of the sword;
had weakness was turned to strength;
became powerful in battle and routed armies”.
Faith is demonstrated by action.

Let YOUR Faith
be YOUR strength.

Goodnight.

  Able to “move mountains”.

“Faith”,
Jesus says,
“If it were the size of even
the smallest of the seeds,
the mustard bush,
they would be able to
move mountains.”
Matthew 17:20

“Stress, depression, and anxiety
are caused when we are living
to please others.”
Paulo Coehlo

Freeing Your Truest Self
When You’ve Been Anxious
to Please Everyone Else

I came from a broken and very poor family. My father left the house during my teenage years, and it was just my mother, little brother, and I remaining.

Like most single parents going through the hardships of single handedly caring for two children, my mother was often anxious about my well-being. And she overcompensated for her anxiety by being overbearing.

I unfortunately inherited this anxiety.

For the longest time, it was a daily battle for me.

You know the feeling.

Your muscles tense up, you feel an overwhelming sense of fear, and your heart begins to race.

It’s the uncomfortable worries that surface as you play out worst-case scenarios in your head.

Though we can feel anxiety about debt, work pressures, or any number of challenges, for me, it was mostly triggered by the fear of not being good enough and disappointing other people.

Professor Harry Lacey

Professor Lacey teaches Latin, Greek & Epic Literature.

My struggle with anxiety was one of the most crippling experiences, and as a result, I never grew.

So, is it really possible to overcome anxiety?

I realized the answer is yes, but first I needed to understand where my anxiety was coming from.

Anxiety is Your Brain Trying to Protect You

There’s a small, almond-sized part of your brain known as the amygdala whose main job is to look out for your survival. For example, if a mountain lion were chasing you, your amygdala would trigger fear so that it would activate your body to run for your life or grab a weapon to fight.

Your amygdala doesn’t only watch out for your physical survival. You feel the same kind of fear when you are nervous about giving a public speech or going on a first date.

When you experience anxiety in these situations, it’s your brain’s way of trying to help you survive emotionally.

Unfortunately, your amygdala is not the greatest at accurately gauging how dangerous a situation might be. It often blows things way out of proportion.

I remember what it felt like when I was a kid and wouldn’t see my mother the whole day because she was always working late. I’d wait for her to talk about something I was excited about only to have her turn the conversation toward things about myself that I should be improving.

Even though this was her way of trying to make sure I survive in the world, because we were barely getting by, the constant requests to do things better made me feel like I wasn’t good enough.

It felt like no matter what I did, I could never fully please her. If I accomplished something she requested of me, I’d get a quick “thank you,” then she’d move on to talk about what else I should do.

Philippe Arrighi teaches French and French History and Culture.

I found it most hurtful when she would talk about how great someone else was. She’d update me about some amazing thing that one of her client’s children had accomplished and suggest that I should try to follow in that person’s footsteps.

All that did was make me think that something was wrong with me.

I ended up with low self-esteem, and because I thought I was worthless, nothing was scarier than the thought of making mistakes and failing, because that would confirm that I was not good enough.

This was why I never took too many risks and searched only for options that seemed to have a guarantee for success.

My anxiety made me develop a behavior of perfectionism, and it was ruining my life. The more I let it make my decisions for me, or lack of decisions for that matter, the further I felt from who I wanted to become.

Ironically, becoming a perfectionist was my brain’s solution to helping me feel good enough.

“Perfectionism
is the belief that if we live perfect,
look perfect, and act perfect,
we can minimize or avoid the pain
of blame, judgement, and shame.
It’s a shield.”

Brené Brown

This toxic behavior put me in an endless cycle of working hard to achieve all sorts of cool things so that one day, I might feel good about myself. In reality, every accomplishment felt anti-climactic. I was always dissatisfied and constantly looking for the next big accomplishment to chase.

No matter how much I succeeded, it was never enough for me, just like I never felt like I was enough for other people.

It wasn’t until I met someone who could see the real me that I finally figured out how to overcome my anxiety.

The Power of a Safe Space

When I was a teenager, a man named Anthony saved my life. If it weren’t for him, I would’ve gone down a much more self-destructive path.

He never questioned the mistakes I’d made unless I wanted to talk about them. And when I didn’t want to talk about them, he’d openly share his own horrible mistakes.

I never once felt judged by him, nor did I feel like he had a set of expectations for me.

Anthony helped me feel safe.

People touched by you will not be ordinary anymore.

People touched by
you will not be
ordinary anymore.

I realized for the first time that for most of my life, I didn’t feel safe to be who I was.

I was almost always in survival mode, shielding myself emotionally. All my behavior was in reaction to the anxiety of not feeling good enough for other people.

Being in a safe space finally helped me put my guard down and look at myself objectively. It was in these moments that I became deeply aware that being a perfectionist wasn’t the answer to my anxiety, and that I was heading down a path toward depression.

I didn’t come to this realization sooner because the pre-frontal cortex, the thinking part of the brain, is turned off when the brain’s in survival mode. This pre-frontal cortex is what’s capable of rational behavior, critical thinking, and emotional regulation.

The only way to calm down the survival mode of your brain is to place yourself in environments where you feel safe.

The thinking part of your brain will help you understand where your anxiety comes from and figure out an effective way to handle it.

It was in this safe space that I finally realized that I had the power and responsibility to stay true to myself.

How I Overcame My Anxiety

Deep down, I hated myself for constantly giving in to other people’s expectations of me and for letting their standards determine my self-worth.

But the reality is that I let this happen.

And here’s the even harsher truth.

I let it happen because it’s much easier to live a life that someone else wants you to live.

The scariest part is that once you take ownership of the one life you have, you have no one to blame if things go wrong. At least following someone else’s path gave me the right to blame him or her.

My brain would rather me let others’ standards dictate my life and sacrifice my mental health than do anything that might make me experience the emotional pain of looking like a failure and falling short of someone’s standards.

Now that I knew all my anxiety was coming from my brain being in survival mode, I needed to figure out a way to regularly calm it down.

          A beautiful sunset at the Anderson School.

This was when I discovered meditation. 

I learned that brain scans in studies have revealed that meditation calms the amygdala and activates the thinking part of your brain.

I started using the free version of an app called Head space, and I learned how effective it can be to simply be present and enter a state of awareness.

For most of my life, I’d been tossed left and right by my circumstances and was a slave to my emotional reactions. Meditation helped me become more aware of why I was behaving the way I did, especially in these reactive moments.

I finally saw that almost all my anxiety led to irrational thoughts and behaviors.

For example, I remember when I decided to start my business, it was hard to build my audience. Nobody was reading any of my articles, and I wasn’t getting any traffic on my website.

I’ve given up on other ventures plenty of times before, and I was ready to give up on this one too. I took it personally and started telling myself the familiar narrative that I didn’t have what it takes. I just wasn’t good enough. Then I recognized that I was reacting to my anxiety as I’d always done, and I could choose a different way.

I was able to be aware and think to myself, “I’m feeling anxious right now because this moment feels similar to a couple of painful experiences I had in the past.”

The moment I became aware of this I gave myself the power to make a choice rather than to habitually react.

So I told myself, “The old you would put yourself down and give up, but the new you can try to assess the situation objectively and see what is really setting you back.”

After doing this, I was finally able to grasp that I didn’t have business challenges because of my character, but most likely because of the strategies and tactics I was using to market myself. Once I used different strategies, I got different results.

Your Best Life Starting Now

In order to live our best life, we have to calm our anxiety about disappointing other people and not being good enough, and find the courage to be true to ourselves.

It is one of the hardest decisions you will ever make, but it will also be one of the best.

The first step to changing my life for the better was having awareness. The next key step was focus.

What you focus on is usually what you will gravitate toward.

The key to living your best life is not to run away from who you were, but to run toward who you want to become.

As I meditated, my anxiety calmed down and I started to have such a clear idea of the person I wanted to be.

I no longer wanted to be the anxious person who thought he was worthless. I wanted to become a great husband, father, and leader. Rather than worrying about not being able to meet these expectations, I started to engage the thinking part of my brain to figure out what needed to be done.

I didn’t have all the answers, but I knew I could only make this life I wanted a reality if I started making changes and learned as I went.

I wanted to learn what it took to become a better husband, so I started going to marriage counseling.

I wanted to become a better parent, so I researched how children are wired and how to best communicate with them.

I wanted to be a better leader, so I invested in credible leadership and coaching courses.

And I did these things not because I wanted to prove something to myself, but more because it mattered to me deeply and I knew it was a part of who I truly was.

I’ve spent too much time running away from opportunities for growth because I was afraid I might not be good enough. The problem, though, was that I was running away without knowing where I wanted to go. I ended up in destinations where I felt more lost than ever, and my anxiety kept catching up to me in the end.

Now, whenever I experience anxiety, I tell myself, “This is anxiety.” I thank my brain for looking out for me and then I ask myself, “What do I need to focus on in this moment, and how can I get it?”

Then, surprisingly, the anxiety calms down and the thinking part of my brain activates to try and figure out the best way to go about things.

This is what changed everything for me.

And I know it can for you too.

While people might have expectations for you, the world desperately needs the power that comes from you living your most authentic life.

If you are battling anxiety about not being good enough or pleasing other people, take a moment to slow down and acknowledge what you are experiencing. Then, identify what you need to feel safe so you can turn on the thinking part of your brain and start uncovering the answers you most need. That might mean meditating, talking to a close friend, or even just getting out in nature for a walk.

It’s time to take a deep breath, be compassionate with yourself, and decide who it is you want to be.

Stay aware and focused and you’ll be there sooner than you think.

About Eugene Choi

Eugene works with professionals who are frustrated because they’ve made it as far as they can go and start to feel stuck. His unique method of coaching helps them figure out what their next steps can be whether it’s a way to grow within their company or even switch careers.

2018-19 Anderson School Calendar

First Semester

September 4 – December 21   2018

Sept. 4 (Tuesday)                              First Day of First Semester

Oct 8 (Monday)                                 Columbus Day Holiday

Nov. 19 – 23                                       Thanksgiving / Fall Break

T. B. A.                                                 Texas A.G.T. Conference (no school)

Dec. 21 (Friday)                                 Last Day of Fall Semester

Dec. 24 – Jan. 7                                  Winter Break Holidays

Second Semester

January 8 – May 24   2019

Jan. 8 (Tuesday)                                 Second Semester begins

Jan. 21 (Monday)                               Rev. Dr. Martin L. King Holiday

Feb. 18 (Monday)                               President’s Day Holiday

Mar. 11 -15                                         Spring Break Holidays

April 19 & 22 (Fri. & Mon.)             Good Friday & Easter Holidays

May 20                                                Prep. Day for Adventure Trip     (no school)

May 21 – 24                                        Adventure Trip

May 24                                                Last Day of Semester

  Dr. & Mrs. Anderson may schedule 2-5 additional days
(to be announced later) for In-service Training.
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    The School Calendar is subject to change.
There are no make-up days
if school is closed due to
 inclement weather.

Inclement Weather Policy:
the school will close if Fort Worth I. S. D. is closed.

(Calendar 2018-2019 / approved 7-29-18)

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