Your child can take you on a life changing journey. He or she can share new insights into the ways you may unlock the secrets of their universe. And in doing so, your child can bring you a sense of peace and of purpose, and happiness, and fulfillment not previously known.
Resolving your outstanding issues is paramount in allowing you to improve the quality of your relationship. These may be recognized by examining patterns of turmoil in your life. I know there are some issues that can remain so painful for us, that we carry them for a lifetime. And we assume that there may be no real resolution. But there is. There is hope.
If your childhood was traumatic, remember that what happened can evolve to a higher level of enlightenment. The transformation from hate to love, reminds me of Robert Frost as he beautifully intoned, “Taking the Road Not Traveled”. And yes, that will make all the difference.
At the end of that beautiful journey, you will discover the most powerful and meaningful gift that you can bestow upon yourself. It is a gift precious beyond worth. It is a gift that God promises to give you, if you give it to others. It is the only gift worthy of giving, to those who have transgressed upon the sanctity of your being. And it is the only act you can do to free yourself from the endlessness of the shackles of tyranny and injustice.
It can bring peace to your heart and rest to your weary mind. It can bring peace to the middle east and peace to the world.
Those individuals who exposed you to their toxic dysfunction when you were a child, can become your very best teachers.The bitter legacy of a heredity of hatred, that often evolves into mental illness, can be obliterated. What we see happening in so many other places in the world, is symptomatic of mental illness. But God provides a way.
How well I remember the Rev. Desmond Tutu, following the atrocities of Rwanda. His call for those who were guilty to confess and receive forgiveness was, in retrospect, the only way out. It was, at the same time, the only pathway forward and the only viable solution to an absolutely insane condition the country evolved into.
His many efforts, in so many endeavors, led to the Nobel Peace Prize in 1984; the Albert Schweitzer Prize for Humanitarianism in 1986; the Pacem in Terris Award in 1987; the Sydney Peace Prize in 1999; the Gandhi Peace Prize in 2007; and the Presidential Medal of Freedom in 2009.
It can be so very hard to “swim against the tide” of our reactions to injustice. But heading down the path of forgiveness can be as simple as knowing we each have this spiritual sense that can identify the good that’s present, even where it seems far from obvious.
My favorite quote from the famous Nobel laureate is this: “Good is stronger than evil; love is stronger than hate; light is stronger than darkness; life is stronger than death. And most importantly, Rev. Tutu brings us to the realization that forgiveness reconnects us with our humanity.
I invite you to learn about Archbishop Tutu’s Global Forgiveness Challenge and how you can get involved. It is very easy — go to the website at forgivenesschallenge.com
I have found that in forgiving others, we are healing ourselves. And, it is a truly wonderful feeling. My friends, you are, thanks to the loving dedication of so many brave men and women who laid down their lives for you, on so many battlefields across this world, born free. And the truly greatest part of that precious gift lies in the freedom to forgive yourself and others.
May God abide with you, as you let go of the hand of hatred that can become your bitter companion for so many years. The things that happened yesterday, truly belong to history.
My friends, live what you are learning.