The Life of our Love
can sometimes be revealed
in the borderland
between mind and matter.
Shades of our imagination
peer into this inner World.
And now we know,
it can reflect
and create Love.
To laugh with abandon
and feel the Freedom
of pure Joy in Life,
is to awaken
and to let it flow
like a violent, raging river
across a barren plain.
To overcome the
the barriers to our Beliefs,
with the Birds,
murmur with the
rise and fall
with the ebb and flow
of tireless tides,
transform and evolve
stirs the endless Sea
swirls the Stars around,
dreaming of Sunshine,
can be found.
Once the Heart
it lets in the
you may think of tears,
but in so many ways,
they are the same,
and the rain.
there is a Greater Reality
than we may ever
My Dear Friends,
is hard price to pay
that are Human,
are FULL of
The rushing rapids
of our fragile
can lead to
“Teach your parents well.
Their children’s hell will slowly go by.
And feed them on your dreams
The one they pick,
the one you’ll know by.
Don’t you ever ask them why.
If they told you, you will cry.
So just look at them and sigh,
And know they Love
– Graham Nash
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we may never
the Nature of our
isn’t it Wonderful
that what lies beyond
our poor ability
to add or detract,
And a spark
of this incomprehensible
each of us,
each and every one.
Ten ways to stay mentally healthy by Celia Dodd
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1 Put people before things: spend more time with friends and family. Nurture your relationships.
2 Be authentic: focus on activities you really believe in, whether it’s a hobby, a project at work, a cause.
3 Don’t measure success in how much you earn or what possessions you own.
4 Set yourself challenging but achievable goals, both short term and long-term.
5 When you achieve a goal, Celebrate it.
6 Learn something new. (Get some ideas what you could learn online.)
7 Volunteer – or just do something simple to help someone. Studies show clear links between volunteering and psychological well being. But don’t be a martyr: choose something you really enjoy.
8 Exercise outside every day.
9 Don’t beat yourself up when things go pear-shaped. Treat yourself with the same compassion you’d treat a loved one. Accept that everyone mucks things up sometimes.
10 At the end of every day make a list of three things you feel grateful for, or things that went well that day.
How to deal with not being happy
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In an environment where stress is the norm, it’s important to be aware of warning signs that anxiety is beginning to slide out of control. Sleeping badly, for example, or drinking more than usual, or flying off the handle for no good reason.
It’s easy to assume you’re the only one who isn’t coping with stress – and that you should be coping.
“So many people carry on striving to avoid facing up to the fact that they’re under constant pressure,” says Mark Williamson. “Just giving yourself the space to stop and notice can help.”
by Xenia Taliotis
1 Eat right
Beware the three false gods: booze, caffeine and sugar. They are not your friends, no matter how much they pretend to be. They’ll pick you up, and then drop you from the high they’ve taken you to. Your true friends are water; selenium-rich foods such as eggs, brazil nuts and unrefined grains; proteins, including meat, fish, poultry, legumes and quinoa; and the all-round hero, the Mediterranean diet.
A study published some years back by University College London, which followed 3,500 people over five years, showed that those who followed a Mediterranean diet were 30 per cent less likely to become depressed than those who didn’t.
If there’s a better lunch buffet to be had in Fort Worth, we haven’t found it. Byblos Lebanese Restaurant, located in Fort Worth at 1406 N. Main St., lays out a delicious spread of Lebanese and Middle Eastern cuisine.
Introduce yourself to our very dear friend and owner, Marios Hedary.
Without his kind assistance in the past, the Anderson Private School simply would not exist. By the way, this is our favorite place to dine!!
Laughter – even fake laughter – releases a surge of stress-busting endorphins into your bloodstream. Even of you don’t have anything to laugh about and remain immune to the best-worst of Basil Fawlty and David Brent, you can still have a go at faking it. Your mind will thank you for it, and so will your body, thanks to the boost in oxygen and the cardiovascular workout (yes really). If you’d like to do it as part of a group, join a laughter club. laughteryoga.org. There are hundreds nationwide.
3 Connect with other people
Dr Steve Ilardi, author of The Depression Cure, says that one of the most damaging aspects of depression is the fact that it makes us withdraw from others. According to him, our brains treat mental illness much as they would a physical one, urging us to retreat until we feel better, when what we really need when we’re low is company. So fight the impulse to switch off the phone and dive under the duvet and instead arrange to meet a friend.
4 Learn something new
If you’re in a rut, ploughing the same furrow will only take you deeper down that hole, so give your brain something new to think about. Learning a new skill, a new language, or even how to master all the functions on your smartphone can make you feel better about yourself and give you a sense of achievement.
Clinical psychologist Dr Linda Blair advocates learning to bake: “Baking is an antidote for the hectic approach we take to living. I would encourage anyone who is stressed or burnt out to start baking.” (Easy on the sugar, obviously; I refer you to point 1.)
But if baking is not for you, the University of the Third Age, u3a.org.uk is a great place to start. It provides “life-enhancing opportunities” for retired and semi-retired people and operates on a local level, so there’s bound to be a group near you.
5 Give more Love
Loving something or someone is one of the best things you can do for your mental health. If you don’t have a partner, and friends and children have moved away and you don’t know what to do with your love, find something you really enjoy doing. Or, even better, get a pet, or volunteer your time to someone who needs your care. Looking after someone or something will shift your focus and could lift you out of the doldrums.
The amazing Cinnamon Trust, cinnamon.org.uk matches volunteers with elderly or terminally ill pet owners who need help looking after their pets. You could have all the pleasure of walking someone else’s dog – and the accompanying health benefits – with none of the responsibilities of ownership.
6 Be active
Nothing slows down your brain’s recovery faster than slowing down your body. You don’t need to run or bootcamp or do anything more strenuous than walk, preferably every day (but failing that, at least five days a week). The NHS recommends 10,000 steps spread throughout each day. Walk It walkit.com is a city route planner that shows you the best way of getting from where you are to where you want to be, while tracking your calorie burn and step count. Walk 4 Life walk4life.info can help you find walks, and people to walk with.
7 Change your mind
Marcus Aurelius, the second century Roman Emperor, said: “The whole universe is change and life itself is but what you deem it.” In other words, life is all about perception. We can’t change any of the awful things that happen to us, but what we can try to change is how we think of them.
Rewiring the brain in this way and accepting situations is hard work, but it can be done with practice and through meditation, which teaches people how to stop automatic thought processes. There are many excellent apps available to get you started, including Buddify (£3.99, buddify.com) and Headspace’s freebie starter app. headspace.com
8 Challenge yourself
Angela Padmore, author of Challenging Depression and Despair, argues that people are often too soft on themselves, and that they need to “get a grip”. This sounds harsh, but it needn’t be.
A brilliant clinical psychologist I know, Dr Mary Burgess at University College London Hospitals, taught me a very simple and effective trick to use whenever I’m wallowing or thinking destructive thoughts, which is this: I just ask myself “Is this helpful?”.
If the answer is no, as it invariably is, then I stop that thinking and move on to something else. Logic is a powerful tool. Use it to challenge your negative thoughts.
Then you can take action to prevent anxiety escalating. Simple steps like cutting down on caffeine and alcohol, setting aside 30 minutes a day for yoga or meditation and reassessing your priorities can be highly effective in tackling stress.
When things go wrong, what matters is how you treat yourself. Recent research into self-esteem found that people who have ‘self-compassion’ cope more robustly when things go wrong.
They still feel bad, but they treat themselves kindly. They don’t agonize or disparage themselves, but instead accept that everyone makes a mess of things sometimes.