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Cherish Each Moment / 10 Strategies for Discovering and Living as Your True Self / School Calendar 2022-23

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You are
Blessed.
Your Dreams are manifesting
as you Pray.
Shine your Light in this World. 
You
are needed.
You are
the Blessing of
YOU.

Meditation,
My Dear Friends,
is simple. 
It is singing.
It is dancing.
It is sitting silently.

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You deserve Happiness
and Love.
Look for the Beauty
all around us.
Our Sacred World
is shining with the Light
of God’s Love.
.
Life
happens once. 
Cherish each moment
on our Truly Divine
Planet.
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We are
Creations of Serene
Divinity.
Always go back 
to God
in Times of need
.
He L
oves you.
You are an incredible
Child of God.
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Close your eyes
and imagine a World with
Peace,
where we are all
Brothers and Sisters.
We are.
.
One Day we will realize
that every one of us
is responsible.
Then our Dream
will come True,
and we will Live in a World
that we never regret
Living in.

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“If I were not a physicist,
I would probably be a musician.
I often think in music.
I Live my daydreams in music.
I see my Life in terms of music.” 

Albert Einstein

I am deeply moved
by the Infinitely Beautiful Melody
of the Sacred Songs
of our Lives.
I am deeply touched.
Thank You.

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When
we are in a dark place
and we think 
we have been buried,
we have really been
planted.
Let your seed grow.
Your Prayers
will be received
by our Father
in Heaven Above.

 Life is short.
It is brief
at best.
But always know,
it is about Love,
and you are Truly
Loved.

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Have an
Open Mind,
a Humble Heart
and Helpful Hands.

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Life
is all about fleeting
Time.
But Love is
Timeless.

Our story
is of many things unsaid.
Things
that are glistening on the horizon –
Beautiful Mountains
and gorgeous Sunsets,
and the reality and the dynamics
of Life and Living,
which are far beyond
description.

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It is easy
to take the Beauty
of our wondrous Planet
for granted.
.
Remember
how breathtaking it is,
and how it inspires us.
It is stunning.
.
It captures the essence 
of Love.
It is
a Gift.
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Let Paradise
flow into your
Soul.
There will be
a surreal feeling of Joyful reunion
with your Creator.
.
The Beauty of Life
is the Beauty
of Love.

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Love
is reflected by our Beautiful country
and by it’s wonderful people.
We are People with Passion
and Pride
and we simply cannot explain.
.
We are Truly Blessed
to Live
and Love Life
here and now.

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There are so many
memories
that we take for granted. 
Many we will never
forget.
.
Remembering
can make us feel
like we are back
to being the me
from all those many years ago,
when Life
was less complicated.

Yes,
it was.
And it can be
again.

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Take a moment each Day
to celebrate Living
on our precious
Earth.
.
The Beauty of a Sunrise
or Sunset,
is the celebration of
True Love,
God’s Love.

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it reminds us
that we are not alone,
that the Love of God,
is all around us.

Pray
for all of us from all different parts
of our Beautiful Earth.
Each of us
is wanting the same thing,
 to share our Love for one another.
May we enjoy
our Light.
.
The Wonder and the Beauty
of God’s World,
was Created
for you and me.
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to share the Beauty of Nature.
I Pray
that everyone will protect
our Beautiful Gift
of this Earth.

May God give you Peace
and fill your Heart
with Love.
.
Love
will protect us
from evil.

Blessings and Peace
be with
you.

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10 Strategies for Discovering
and Living as Your True Self

If you find yourself continuing to act out old patterns and roles that no longer serve you, this is more than likely interfering with your ability to create mutually rewarding, respectful, and reciprocal relationships. Below are my ten strategies for getting in touch with your true self so as to create an integrity-based and emotionally rewarding life.

The True Self Lost in Childhood

Although living as one’s true self in an emotionally honest manner might seem like a natural and easy thing to do, those of us who grew up in a family system that did not support our uninhibited and natural expressions may have gradually disconnected from the truth of who we were, i.e., our core essence, so as to be accepted by those we were dependent upon to meet our most basic and fundamental needs.

It is often the case that children who grew up in these types of chaotic, unstable environments find some semblance of identity and emotional security by taking on one or more family roles, such as the hero, the scapegoat, the rebel, the caretaker, or the clown. But in unconsciously disconnecting from our true self in order to emotionally survive, we may later find ourselves as adults people-pleasing others and hiding behind a facade, with no idea how to express and live our truth.

How to Live and Speak Your Truth

If I were to ask you right now, “In what situations, or around which people, do you feel most yourself, and most creative, spontaneous, and alive?”, how might you respond? Alternatively, if I were to ask you, “In what situations, or around which people, do you feel uncomfortable, restrained, and inhibited?,” how might you reply? Contemplating these questions can be provocative, to say the least, and there may be no obvious or easy answers at first.

If you feel ready to shed anything about yourself that feels false and fearlessly live from a place of emotional honesty, personal integrity (inspired by your principles and values), and a direct knowledge of self, the 10 strategies I designed to assist my psychotherapy and coaching clients will aid you in this courageous quest. If you are not already seeing a competent therapist, counselor, or coach who can support you in your efforts, you might consider engaging such services before implementing the strategies listed below.

10 Strategies for Discovering and Being Your True Self

  1. Recognize You Have a True Self Nature: Each of us enters the world possessing an innate, core, true self. Each one of us is an “original model”, and as such we all have unique gifts to offer to the world.
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  2. Remember and Reflect on When You Felt Happiest as a Child: Think back to when you were young. When did you feel most free, happy, and alive? Take a few minutes after reflecting on what caused you to feel joyful in your youth, going back to your earliest conscious memory. Then write about the people, places, things, and activities that brought you the greatest joy while you were growing up. This simple “remembering and reflection” exercise can put us deeply in touch with the innocent purity of our original true self nature.

  3. Make a Commitment to Recover and Reconnect with the Joyful, Innately Pure, Authentic Essence Within: In a certain sense, recognizing and consciously reclaiming our own unique, true self nature is a paradoxical process of finding and embracing what we never really lost. It is an excavation project, of sorts, i.e., it is a process of uncovering, discovering, recovering, and consciously reclaiming who (and what) we in fact have always been, and will always be — That which is most true, honest, expansive, and alive within ourselves, yet constant and unchanging.

  4. Make a Decision to Release All that Feels False and No Longer Serves You: Becoming authentic and emotionally honest requires that we be willing to release the parts of ourselves that we were conditioned to become by the various social systems we have been immersed in like a fish swimming in the sea, from our family-of-origin to the cultural and social systems we currently identify with, and everything in between. Ask yourself if you feel ready to begin doing that. If not, I encourage you to explore what might be inhibiting you from living an emotionally honest and authentic life. Change is never easy. It’s never too late to “get real”.

  5. The Process Of Letting Go: I often ask my clients who are engaged in a process of true self recovery and reclamation, “Is this (person, place, thing, behavior, situation) serving you at the highest level today?” Whatever is not serving us at the highest level is more than likely not serving others in our life at the highest level either, regardless of how it may seem. It ultimately serves no one when we allow ourselves to remain small, diminish our internal light, and hide our truth from others (and perhaps even from ourselves.)

  6. The Only Way Out Is Through: It is often during this process of letting go of all that now feels false that long-buried emotions unconsciously repressed in childhood may surface, resulting in our possibly becoming sad, anxious, angry, and even genuinely depressed. At times such as this it is imperative that a person feels he or she is not alone in the valiant task of facing any painful feelings and memories that may arise head on, versus avoiding the challenging, difficult work of genuine transformational growth; therefore, this is a time when the help of a trusted therapist, counselor, transformational life coach, and/or a psychoeducational peer-support group can prove to be invaluable to a person engaged in the task of reclaiming and authentically embodying his or her true self.

  7. It’s Okay to Experience and Release Old, Pent-Up Feelings from Childhood: It is also not uncommon for a person whose true self nature was shamed and dismissed in childhood to find they are experiencing feelings of intense anger, even rage, during this critical transformational time of inner self-exploration and excavation. This can especially surprise those who strived to be “nice” their entire lives to avoid upsetting others and risking conflict. I like to remind my clients during such times that the word “courage” includes the word “rage”, and successful passage through the dark night of the soul is ultimately brought about by processing these more difficult feelings and emotions that society labels as “negative”. Those who were victims of neglect and/or other forms of abuse in childhood are especially prone to finding themselves overwhelmed with these darker, extremely intense feelings; thus, working with a licensed psychotherapeutic professional and/or abuse recovery network such as Adult Survivors of Child Abuse can be especially critical during this phase of recovery, healing, and growth.

  8. Pay Attention To Your Dreams: I have also learned from both personal and professional experience that this is a time to pay attention to one’s active imagination, dreams, and fantasies, as suggested by the great Swiss psychologist Carl Jung, for these signs and symbols emanating from deep within our unconscious invariably reveal important keys to a given individual’s growth, including acting as an inner wise guide, when one understands how to begin to interpret the personal and universal symbols contained therein. A book that I often recommend to clients for such creative dream work is Jeremy Taylor’s Dream Work: Techniques for Discovering the Creative Power in Dreams.

  9. Release The Limiting Views Of Others: This is also a time when a person might report to their therapist, transformational life coach, or support network that they are feeling increasingly uncomfortable around family members, colleagues, and friends if those relationships were dependent on their being a certain way – A way that now no longer feels authentic, embodied, or emotionally true. This is especially the case when one has knowingly or unknowingly been playing out a particular role within a given relationship and/or system (e.g., hero, rescuer, ‘black sheep’, enabler) and/or been an unwitting recipient of another’s psychological projections (a process whereby humans defend themselves against their own unpleasant impulses by denying their existence while attributing them to others). At some point you may have no choice other than to make it clear that you are no longer willing to distort or hide your true self in order to protect the feelings of others, and that you simply will not accept being manipulated into living out old, familiar role(s) in the dysfunctional system’s “script” (typically one’s family-of-origin) so that the status quo can be maintained.

  10. You’re Not Obligated To Play By Other People’s Rules: If it wasn’t clear before, once you commit to live your life authentically it will quickly become evident that every system has its “rules”, be it a family system, a work system, a political system, etc. This is a good time to remember that whatever the system can’t change, control, and/or accept, it will attempt to diminish, label, reject, and even (in extreme cases) “eject”. And this is why I see each and every person who is engaged in a sincere process of true self recovery and reclamation as being heroic, for it is no easy task to realize the truth of who and what one is while attempting to maintain relationships with others who may be demanding we “change back” (whether overtly or covertly) so that they might feel more comfortable, in control, and secure.
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Living as Your True Self

As illustrated in the above 10 strategies, remaining committed to an ongoing transformational process designed to further our personal and professional growth, enhance our relationships, and increase our overall sense of confidence and well being is not always a simple or enjoyable task, especially in the beginning. And yet, those who decide to do what it takes to live from a place of emotional integrity and fearless honesty invariably discover that it is worth the effort required, for it is by courageously committing to recovering the lost Child within that we are able to become the true self we were always destined to be. And what could be better than that?

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